In this article, Tony Perkins, head of the anti-gay group "Family Research Council" lays it exactly on the line: Family Research Council: Homosexual attraction is not a choice · PinkNews.co.uk The following from the article cited above is exactly what is their main argument against us: Right there, in bold above, is precisely what we must counter: Perkins and his ilk seek to trivialize our same-sex attractions, reducing them to the mere sexual act, that is their obsessive focus, they would, if we let them, decide for us what it is we are. Our counter-argument is that being LGBT is so much more than that, it involves love and parenting and contributing our own, unique, perspective to the greater community, though culture, writing, music, politics...whatever. Never accept that argument, never let them define us. We are plenty capable of knowing just who and what we are, Mr. Perkins, thank you very much!