LGBT News An indian doctor commited suicide because her husband is gay

All I can say is... Good riddance.

 

:roflmao:

 

Well.. I completely agree that he shouldn't have married her. I think that's ridiculous in itself. People who marry the opposite sex to hide their sexuality get no sympathy from me. Especially if they do it knowing full well how much hurt they could cause another. I don't care what happens to the guy frankly He shouldn't go to jail but he should face up to what he's done (referring to marrying a woman to hide his sexuality) he didn't kill the woman she did that herself but yeah.. well done sir for fucking yours and your ''wifes'' life up

Btw I didn't know India was THAT bad towards homosexuality.

 

I find some of the responses in this thread so distasteful.

Even despite the fact that this is a subject of suicide and making snide comments completely callous, LGBTQ individuals are not the only people who are justified in being psychologically affected by hate and shame. We can sympathize with feeling trapped in marriages of obligation, but we cannot feel the same about their partners? We rally when stories of LGBTQ committing suicide out of shame, but we can't find apathy when the people who were raised in the same environments and conditioned into the same mindsets experience shame?

Hypocrisy is one thing, but responding to such a story in this manner is simply disgusting.

 

I'm not sure why some of you guys seem happy about what happened. I think their situation was completely fucked up in the first place. The husband was at fault for "using" the wife but the wife was also pretty ignorant about her husband's sexuality which resulted in taking her own life.

 

arffff
Wow you really capture the situation in most of the country in Asia

I don't know much about India but here we have almost the same tradition. Here the older sibling have to get married first in order to the younger to be eligible. But if "accidents" happened like unwanted pregnancy, the younger became eligible to get married but certain "traditional ritual" have to be conducted prior the wedding day and it was humiliating for both family and the older sibling.

my opinion : the guy must have been a "really loving and providing" husband to make his wife so attached. but then if he's gay he shouldn't marry a girl in the first place, either for cover up purposes or arranged marriage because then you cant get what you really want in a true relationship.

my fact : i'm the eldest so i have to prepare myself for humiliating ritual to allow my sibling to get married since i probably cant get married here anyway

 

This incident remind me of Jason Collins being in a relationship with a woman for eight years. After he came out, they ended the relationship. Thank goodness she didn't feel compelled to commit suicide like this anesthesiologist did. Regardless, it's probably pretty difficult for her to come to terms with the fact that she wasted eight years by being in a relationship that inevitably wouldn't work out.

In both cases, it still holds true that it's partly society's fault to blame. If gay people were accepted and not stigmatized, then none of these incidents would ever happen.

I feel awful for all parties involved :/

 

this is why even if I was lonely and sad I wouldn't ever marry a girl cause it would be painful for the other person. And it would not be a real relationship

 

Some of you guys don't get it, huh? This kind of stuff happens in East Asia (maybe not Taiwan) almost all the time. Homosexuality is such a taboo topic over there, just talking about it gets weird looks.

I have parents and many relatives who were born and raised in China and Vietnam, both in urban and rural areas, and they all consider marriage and childbearing to be a strong tradition and a must. Those who "delay" marriage are seen to be disrespectful towards the family lineage. My sister (she's straight) is putting off plans to get married to her bf since she's pursuing higher education, and even that got weird looks from my family.

Since boys are precious in Asia since they pass on the family name, sons are expected to get married to a woman and have babies. This is why gay Asians often have a hard time coming out to people. I'm even experiencing that now since I'm the only son in my immediate family. Traditions die hard there, even more in rural areas.

I feel bad for both the man and the woman. The man, being that he most likely had to get married for traditional reasons, and the woman for being so shocked about this. This shouldn't be those two that we should be blaming here. It should be societal pressures for making homosexuality something that shouldn't be talked about. If it was more acceptable for people to talk about this, situations like this wouldn't happen as often.

 

What a fucked up situation.

 

The hell a couple of you people happy about??? A woman died. I may not have much sympathy for bigots who do cruel shit, but I wont laugh at the dead or say "good riddance." That's wrong.

 

I feel bad for the girl, seeing that her husband has been unfair to her, and it ultimately lead to her committing suicide. However, I also feel sorry for the guy, having to marry her just because tradition says so.

It will be very difficult for India to be accepting, because their culture is very strict. I can only imagine how trapped our people are in there.

 

As someone who survived suicide, Some of the comments on here are disappointing...

 

This is just a very sad situation for everyone involved. I agree with what some other posters have said in that I'm just really shocked by some of the comments that have been written here. People shouldn't be saying disrespectful things after a woman committed suicide. That's just wrong.

 

I was about to bring up a Japanese movie I saw last year, about a girl who was kidnapped after volunteering somewhere in the Middle East (Iraq?), and when she returned home, everyone started treating her and her family like lepers. There was a lot of shame involved, and eventually, her dad committed suicide (which she was also blamed for) after losing his job. Instead of taking her own life, she decides to go back, I'm guessing to live there.

I'm guessing being doctors, they had even more of an image to maintain, and knowing your marriage was a sham, on top of knowing your husband was cheating on you repeatedly, was too much for her to handle. Not sure how divorces are treated there, but it wouldn't be surprising if there were some stigma attached, with possibly worse results for the woman.

Who knows how he's going to want to live the rest of his life now that his secret is out. India and many Islamic countries have some of the highest numbers of gay porn searches, so I'm guessing if he decides to pursue an active sex life, it will be on the fringes of society, with little support. People act like everyone has the same choice regarding marriage and children, when there isn't any other way in some places.

 

Interesting some of the rude replies. I'd feel terrible if I were her too. Even without homophobia it would be really upsetting to find out that your partner was using you, basically. And "chatting with gay friends." I will make he assumption that some of these chats were sexual, so he was essentially cheating on her too. She was a victim. He was too. He shouldn't be punished though.

 

This story is dishearteningly mundane.