Dear Hypothetically Gay Son | Ask Your Dad Blog Ah, for some reason this letter made my eyes water. Now if only all parents would react that way from the begging.
Wow that was so beautifully written, I got teary at the end of reading that. I totally agree, if more parents acted this way, if more people acted this way it would be a lot easier for all of us. We have come a long way in acceptance, but we still have a long way to go.
That was beautiful. One day, most parents will be like this... but that day is far. I totally agree that the journey for acceptance will continue for more time. But we shall cherish moments like this and continue on.
that was amazing. I know my dad would never be like that. He's one of those people who's okay with people being gay but I know that if he knew I was it would hit a little close to home. The most he'd do was act awkward around me for the rest of his life. I once tried to awkwardly blurt it out over dinner and I don't think he believed me x.x
What a great letter from "Happy Magic Fictitious Unreality Land" now for some quotes from hypothetical letters written in this reality: "No son of mine is gonna be a queer." "What did I do wrong?!" "I told you, its those people you hang around with!" "Don't wanna hear about it, don't wanna talk about it. You can still be my son if it doesn't exist." "You have dishonored and brought shame to your family" "You may as well be dead." "This is not how I raised you." "You know how the bible feels about it, so you know how I feel about it." "I wanted Grandchildren." And my mother used to think it was silly that I watched cartoons as a teenager.
How much hope that makes me feel! Maybe things could be cool like that in a few years... and people wouldn't be so misanthropic.
That is a great letter. I wish that everyone's comings out would be like that, but sadly that isn't the case.
That made me pretty ready eyed. I wish my parents would be like that, but I have a better chance of winning lotto than that happening.
I just read through the comments on the blog post. One commentator in particular stood out: ^ This is so true.
Mostly, the letter was pretty damn good. I especially liked this part: I think it's so beautiful when people actually care enough about who they love to speak of conflict. I had a big crocodile tear for that one. However, I thought this was pretty stupid... Maybe I am just being a 23-year-old without kids, but I see zero wisdom in this whatsoever. It also sends a pretty mixed message right before this: Great, and I think that's cool, but what the guy said right before that was tantamount to "you can't have sex in my house because I couldn't have sex in my parents' house."
Eh, his house, his rules.. I think the point is he's not treating him any differently from if he was straight or gay.
^ (@ Pret) I don't think the bit about keeping his door open is necessarily for wisdom, I think it was more to end the letter on a lighter note. At least that's how I read it. I read 1) and 2) and it was pretty intense, but then 3) was kind of that awkward joke someone makes to break the seriousness of a conversation that makes you chuckle because they tried. And then 4) still talks about serious topics but kind of... lightened because of 3). It also reinforces that him being gay is as normal as him being straight, he just needs to change the gender of the people going through his bedroom door for the "stereotypical parental rules" to apply. That's how I took it anyway. That was a really well-written letter though. I almost got teary, and that doesn't happen often.
