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Missing what seems to be an important concept

Anonymous — Thu, 17 May 2012 11:40:52 GMT

What exactly is being rude? I don't get what rudeness is, and never have. I can listen to somebody while using my phone, and still pick up on everything. I am told I am being rude quite oftemn, but I do not understand why. What is rude even? Why is being rude so bad?

hiiiiiiii

ILoveHim — Thu, 17 May 2012 11:30:01 GMT

uhhh, heey.
Im Skyler-Mae.
Im 16... I have a 6 month old baby, Reagan... I brag alot.. :) Hope yous dont mind...
Dont realli know whatelse tooo say. :/ (&&&)

Ello Poppies!

NemesisPrime — Thu, 17 May 2012 11:03:25 GMT

I've already shared a few things about me but I prefer to be open with my information so people know where I come from when they talk to me!

I'm 20 years old and after having questioned my sexuality twice and some help from the fellow gay guys here (Love ya btw (*hug*)) I found out I am gay myself and while it's going to take some getting used to I tend to accept things a lot easier than some, maybe it's just because I'm very level-headed...

Anyway, I enjoy Anime, fighting games, Kingdom Hearts, Voice Acting, and just being a nerd!

I'm a very open-minded guy and if you have problems feel free to talk! I won't bite! (much...) :lol:

New Kid on the block.

Sadiee — Thu, 17 May 2012 09:56:11 GMT

If you read that and thought of the band I officially love you.
Annnyyywaaayy..

Hi! I'm Sadie!(:
I'm new the forum [obvliousy] and am looking forward to seeing how everything works around here.. Hopefully picking up a few friends along the way. I'm sixteen. I like Cats, Girls, Energy Drinks, Dani Shay, and The L Word far too much.

I've been out for a little under a year and, oddly, coming out really wasn't too big of a deal. I mean, for me it was. I opened my mouth to talk and thought my brain was about to fall out. For everyone else it really wasn't a big deal though.. They weren't even suprised. Coming out made me feel so much better. So now I'm out to everyone except my Grandad. (:

I love old movies starring Molly Ringwald. [IE: Pretty in pink, Sixteen Candles, The breakfast club.] Quite a few of my fave tv shows are from before I was born.. Quantum Leap, Facts of life, Happy Days, Gun Smoke, Law&Order:SVU, True Blood, and DANCE MOMS<3

I don't really know how to make a good intro.. =/
So.. I like music, hanging with friends and family, texting, reading, doing crazy stuff to my hair.. And, y'know, just average weird stuff that odd siteen year olds do.

Thanks for reading!(: <3

Did I have anal sex?

Anonymous — Thu, 17 May 2012 09:26:21 GMT

Stupid to ask such a thing I know. I did something very,very dumb. Up until this point I had never had sex. I was hanging out at another gay friends house and we were drinking. I don't even drink much and I guess this is why. We got extremely drunk and next thing I know he kissed me. I kissed back (I really only like him as a friend) and we started making out. Then I'm not sure exactly how we ended up totally naked, but I can remember him giving me a blow job. Faintly, but I remember it. Next thing I know I wake up the next morning and look around to see that we are both laying there naked and the whole place looks like a tornado hit it. I gather my clothes up (I couldn't even find my freakin underwear and socks) and left him a note to call me later. I left in a panic trying to figure out what the hell happened exactly. I get home and take a shower. I have thin skin and I notice bruising in the shape of two hand prints on my hip bone. I literally about fainted. I checked my anus and it wasn't sore. It didn't feel weird or anything. I just don't know what happened. I don't really want to talk to him about it. He knows I'm just interested in friendship. The only thing he said was that he had an "awesome" time, which I reply in a jokingly manner "me too, but don't expect it to happen again pal". Is there a way to know for sure if you had anal sex? I'm so freaking embarrassed. I don't want to drink ever again. I guess if I did, atleast he is cute and sweet. Still totally stupid. Shit, just shit! :tears:

Afraid of hurting friendship

alTO — Thu, 17 May 2012 07:33:51 GMT

Hi everyone,

I'm new here. I've had something bothering me for quite some time and have been planning to post to a forum for a while. Here it goes...

I'm a 25 year-old guy. About four years ago I did a month-long study abroad program in Asia. I met a number of people, a few of whom I still keep in touch with. There was one guy in particular who I especially wanted to get to know and not lose touch with. I suppose you could call it a "crush" of sorts, although I was not open then and continue to not be now.

For the first year after getting back, we didn't see each other much. After we both attended the birthday party of a mutual friend in the program, our get-togethers got a little more regular. (We live on opposite ends of the city, so it takes some effort.) For the past year-and-a-half we've usually grabbed dinner or something every fews weeks or so.

Lately we've seen each other more than ever. We actually just recently travelled to LA to visit some friends for a week. I've felt for a long time that there were some mutual feelings for each other, but now I feel it even more so. The thing is we never talk about it and I'm afraid if I were to I could damage or ruin our friendship.

One thing I've noticed is that lately whenever we're beside each other, we tend to "make contact" for extended periods. (I don't know if this sounds weird.) If we're at the back of a car, on a plane, at a movie, or beside each other on a couch, we'll gradually lean onto each other. (There was one time at my place where I thought something could happen, but I resisted out of fear of the consequences to our friendship.) But after it comes time to get up, we don't talk about it.

Just yesterday we grabbed dinner. Eventually we got to talking about politics and, with it, the recent same-sex marriage developments. He asked what I thought about it (he always asks me political stuff) and I said I saw no reason for it not to be legal. He seemed to agree but indicated he wasn't affected. He then asked me if I thought "they" were born that way or if it was a choice. I said I couldn't see how it could possibility be a choice. He then added that in ancient Greece it was common and perfectly acceptable for men to have male companions. (He's asked the "born this way" question before during a similar conversation. It could be him trying to gauge my acceptance, but it's impossible to say.)

I'm so conflicted. I know he's had girlfriends/dated girls (I've dated girls too without much success), but I know that doesn't necessarily indicate much. He's always had some suggestive mannerisms and is soft spoken. (Again, not necessarily indicative of anything.) I am quite sure he's at least bi, but am less sure whether he would admit it or if he's even accepted it himself. I'm afraid to hurt or ruin our friendship. I'm also embarrassed to even say anything about myself, which I'm not even sure of.

He's one of the nicest people I've met, but I just don't know what to do. I'm afraid that not acting will mean that I'll miss an opportunity (if there is one) to find someone I care about and am attracted to emotionally and otherwise, but then I can't stand the thought of ending our friendship with one stupid move.

I'd appreciate any advice or thoughts. Thanks in advance.

The Milky Way Galaxy

thylvin — Thu, 17 May 2012 07:02:05 GMT

For those of you who are space nuts... I found this wonderfull photograph application that enables a viewer to zoom in on different parts of the galaxy.

When I say Zoom, I mean zoom down to the individual star.

without further ado, here's the link: IIPMooViewer 2.0 :: IIPImage High Resolution HTML5 Ajax Image Streaming Viewer

Enjoy!!!

Pretty sure this girl is STRAIGHT.

BleedToLoveHer — Thu, 17 May 2012 06:31:44 GMT

:smilewave Best way to make a straight girl fall in love with me? Lol.

Have any of the gay women or men on here ever gotten a presumably "Straight:eusa_doh:" person to fall for them? I work with her and she is ah-mazing!!! :icon_wink

(!)

Sex Toys: opinions?

Anonymous — Thu, 17 May 2012 06:01:02 GMT

Just curious on everyone's opinions of sex toys, I guess its a very person thing but its not a topic I see very often and I just ordered some for myself recently (like 5 sec ago), I'm slightly nervous as I still live at home and It could be awkward.

One thing I have noticed about the subject of sex toys is that its generally centered around females more so then guys and there is a sort of a stigma around guys using\wanting them. As a male myself I think its funny as masturbation is generally the other way around, more of a taboo subject for girls then it is for guys.

Greetings from the North.

BleedToLoveHer — Thu, 17 May 2012 05:57:56 GMT

Hey everyone, I am new to the forum. I came out as gay about a year ago and loving it. I have a The L Word addiction. I love The Real L Word as well and I'm a huge fan of Kacy and Cori ;D I've had okay dating luck since coming out. Here's how it went down anyway:

Mom: Are you Bisexual?
Me: I don't think so, I think I'm only into women.
Mom: Ohhhh.
*My step dad sits down beside us with newspaper.*
Mom: Hunny.,.. got something to tell you.. Jill is gay.
Step-Dad: Cool. I'm glad. *Goes back to reading newspaper.*

Basically they knew before I even thought of coming out. So.. they basically couldn't stand to see me so scared to come out and wanted to make me take that first step and at least let me know they'd be there for me every step of the way. I've been lucky. I wish the same for everyone else here as well. :thumbsup:

Other than that I really love music, playing my piano and guitar.. I'd call myself a femme I guess, but I'm just me. I love my cats, my greyhounds, my friends, I love to explore and go dancing. Nice to meet you all :)

Oh...!

LaurieAnderson — Thu, 17 May 2012 05:25:44 GMT

Oh the terrible realization that the one you were working on, the one you had rapport with, and the one whom you could have sworn was gay turns out, in the end, to actually be straight.

Sighhh

... Sorry, I needed to tell someone.

What do you think?

Robert — Thu, 17 May 2012 05:08:16 GMT

Proud?

Cynicite — Thu, 17 May 2012 04:31:04 GMT

So, I've come out to most everyone I know at this point. Since I started telling people, I've lost friends and family members. I finally admitted to myself and to my girlfriend that it wouldn't work, and that we should see other people. Honestly, I can't chalk up a single happy moment caused by me being gay. All that being said, I know that there are people out there that are happy and proud to be gay. I personally feel horrible and ashamed to be gay. I guess I'm wondering if someone could tell me why they're proud to be gay? Maybe, point out something that I'm overlooking?

is this guy gay or straight?

hahalookatmenow — Thu, 17 May 2012 04:00:42 GMT

There's a few boys in my high school, who I think are gay/bi, but there's this one specific boy(Henry) who I think is because when some boys walk past him he sometimes looks at them from top to bottom like he's checking them out or seeing what they're wearing. I was gonna try and get to know him/be his friend but I decided to take the easy way out to find out if he was gay/bi (never again will I do that). I made a fake Facebook account pretending to be another guy. I added Henry and Austin(he goes to my school, and I thought he was gay/bi too) as friends, they both accepted my request. I thumbed up one of Henry's profile pics and I messaged him a few times(2-3 times, nothing gay). I also messaged Austin and I said he was cute in the message. Austin deleted me as a friend after I said he was a cutie and Henry never responded to my messages. A few days later in math class everyone(about 4students) were talking about "boys being gay" and Austin said "his son will never be gay" and Henry agreed with him and said "right". After that I was juss gonna forget about getting to kno henry until he said something really suspect, out of nowhere he said he once dated a girl but it was boy and he "didn't know"... mind you, we're only in 10th grade and since when does a 10th/9th grader date a transgender and NOT know? I'm still confused as to why he would even say that to a group of ppl? So part of me thinks A) This kid juss wants to fit in and is in the closet, B) I could be over thinking or C) He's confused with what he likes. How should I go about this situation from here on out?

Dad cleared of raping two baby daughters

Pseudojim — Thu, 17 May 2012 03:30:55 GMT

Dad cleared of raping two baby daughters

Quote:

A prominent Los Angeles photographer falsely accused of raping his two baby daughters said he broke down and cried when he found out a court had cleared him of the alleged crime.

Paul Rusconi was arrested on June 7, 2011 after two distant relatives accused him of raping his children after they saw a picture he had taken with the girls in his bathtub, KTLA reports.

He spent a night in prison before being released on a US$220,000($221,908) bail.

The family members who made the claims were the girls' nanny and her husband, who the court granted custody of the girls to after Mr Rusconi was charged.

Mr Rusconi said he believed he may have been the target of the allegations because he was a single, gay father.

"They all called me a sexual deviant and a pervert," Mr Rusconi told KTLA.

"That's all stemming from my sexuality."

However, a rape kit six months after Mr Rusconi was charged found no evidence and his girls were returned to him.

Mr Rusconi is now suing his accusers, saying the incident has made him less trusting.

"My circle is much tighter. The people I let into my life is much tighter, and I intend on keeping it that way."

A happy ending, but it's disappointing that prejudiced people can have such a profoundly negative effect on this poor man's life simply by making untrue allegations. I'm glad he has decided to sue them.