Why do people think you can't truly be bisexual?

Because its hard to understand bisexuals.

 

Many bisexuals are attracted to one gender a bit more, so they think that the person is really just straight/gay because of this slight difference. I think many people group all bisexual people like this.

 

Being bisexual doesn't me you date two people at once... that's their problem... they only see you with Jack OR Jill, and do not understand that you have the POTENTIAL to date Jack AND Jill, just not at the same time.

 

Because most people *aren't* bisexual and since they have personal incredulity/inability to grasp it, their intuition must apply to everybody.

 

I think a lot of people don't believe in bisexuals because everyone has met that one person who says there bisexual but is only bisexual from the neck up.

 

I'm a bit more into women than men. However when I want a man the feeling is just as intense. I think I could be happy and committed with either gender as long as I could use some sex toys.

 

people can't understand why you are attracted to men for their manly traits and women for their womanly traits all at the same time. well, as a former [genuine] bisexual, i can testify that it does exist. there was a time in my life i had feelings for both sexes, i still do to an extent, but by being more honest with myself, i find i prefer one a lot more than the other

 

I honestly don't understand why people don't think bisexuality exists. It annoys the piss out of me, but it's just how people are. Honestly, not everyone is attracted to just one gender. Sheesh! People annoy me.

 

It's totally unacceptable for your husband to tell you to erase yourself. For one thing, that means that you can't be an ally to LGBT children.

 

If anything, bisexual attractions are probably far more common among "straight" and "gay" individuals than most are willing to admit. It doesn't have to be constant, 50/50 attraction, either, and unfortunately your view is one that a good number of gay men share, even if souped up with extra intelligence+knowledge.

And who is to say that "bridge" shouldn't count? Many gay men and women generally do feel some attraction toward the opposite sex before coming to terms with their "true" orientation - should those experiences simply be discarded or forgotten?

I don't expect everyone to sport the label anytime soon, but I would like for people to acknowledge there are grey areas within human sexuality, and this "all or nothing" attitude doesn't do it any justice at all.

 

Dunno, I'm experiencing the same problem.

I have a gay friend who I've recently found out is telling everyone that I'm gay and not bisexual. When I confronted him about it, he said 'but you are gay, you're just at that stepping stone of acceptance. You can't be both'.

I think it's hard to understand by both heterosexual people and homosexual people. Straight people see it as being just too alien that it's difficult for them to grasp, where as gay people see it as a free pass to an easy life because it's still possible for bisexuals to engage in straight relationships.

Truthfully if I'm honest, I'm more offended when LGT people say that bisexual people are in denial. They go through the exact same process that bisexuals go through, and I think it's ridiculous that they discriminate based on sexual orientation. It's also incredibly ironic lol.

 

I know a lot of young teens think it's cool to throw around, "Hey, I'm bi" because it looks "cool." -_-

 

I always thought that most people were bi' to some degree but just didn't want to admit it.

 

Because that's what gay people do - they judge people based on their sexual orientation. Makes sense doesn't it? I see so many divides in LGBT and its screwed up I dont see myself as part of the "community" and i dont see LGBT as an accepting group of people. these people should stop crying for equality when they don't even give it themselves. Maybe it's human nature to be huge hypocrite

 

Tell him that bisexuality is about being able to find people of both gender attractive, and you find, people from both gender, attractive, therefore you are bisexual not matter what you do, just as he cannot suddenly stop feeling attraction to other women.

Also explain him that identity is a fundamental part of each individual and that includes sexuality. If he dont graps any of that then make a rethorica question " ok then, if i like men and i like women and im not bisexual then what am i? A straight woman that feels certain attraction to both men and women?.

What i dont understand is why is he getting so work out on that? Why dont he instead take the opportunity to just share with her something like "oh look! What a pretty woman we have there" and you "oh yes she is hot"... Last time i checked i (a male straight ) enjoy sharing my sexual interest thougts with my bisexual friend, so i guess it would be very cool to have a bisexual wife with whom you can casually admire other women together.

 

It's called normilisation. If a bi person is with one person for a long time, people around them will start to think they've always been gay/straight.
Caused by prejudice and ignorance about bisexuality.