OK so i tell my bf he can use my computer for whatever , he looks at porn ..... well i got pissed because i found out that he downloaded it , watched cleared the history deleted of my computer but left it on the recent list ...... on the program i watch movies on . BUT the fact he is so fervent in telling me " its your computer i don't want to mess with your stuff " WELL WHAT THE HELL ?!?!? you tell me you think it an invasion of my privacy ( i have had that talk for him to use my laptop atleast 10 times ) and you decide the best course of action is to lie to my face then look at porn ?? i try to talk to him about anything and he doesn't want to or he lies or understands say he think about it and doesn't . HE WON'T COMPROMISE HE WON'T LISTEN . i am about to leave him i think but this is our only problem but i think its a big one . refusing communication is like breaking the base of a relationship. THE fact he has to lie to me about wanting to look at porn makes me feel like something is aesthetically wrong with me ? (how do i spell that word right and mess up 10 others to this point?) then he gets mad because he doesn't listen when i say that then get upset because i get depressed , and i have a major depression disorder ..... i can't handle this much long any advice? i think i am going to tell him to be ready to talk by sunday morning or be ready to be single. this is my first relationship too so i don't know if that is good or not or what , we have already been together 2 years in 13 days and i just don't get why he cannot tell me what is what . i do not care about a lot of things but if i have to find out when i am trying to watch a movie and play a game that you have been lying to me for over 6 months of course i will be pissed off. ps just found out so later i will post more but this is the vent portion . ---------- Post added 15th Jul 2013 at 12:47 PM ---------- ok. so my question is how to make someone communicate better ?
I'm a bit confused, is it this situation specifically that you feel lacked communication or is a lack of communication common to your relationship with him in general?
it's in general , but this is the breaking point . i still love him , still want to be with him i am just very hurt he feels he cannot talk to me about anything . he won't talk about bills , he won't talk about anything sexual , he won't talk about really anything important . he gives me glimpses at things but he doesn't actually tell me anything.
