Thinking of being abstaining from sex for a while

Maybe abstaining is going too far. You have to ask yourself what you hope to achieve by abstaining. What are the goals? I think there are very few goals that are actually achieved by something like this.

Plus: if you have the ability to abstain, then why can you not limit sex and control it to appropriate people and times?

What does your therapist think of the abstaining idea? I'd be surprised if he was advising it.

 

If you absolutely, positively think that abstaining for a time will have some sort of positive effect, then I suppose you could try it. However, I have to agree with TwoMethod: If you have sufficient control to abstain from sex entirely, why not exercise sufficient control to only have sex with your boyfriend or otherwise control it to a more appropriate level?

And, what does your therapist think about this?

Not trying to be negative, but I'm almost getting the sense that you are trying to punish yourself or something rather than actually solve your issues. In other words, the desire to abstain sounds like just another symptom of your depression rather than a way of curing it.

My 2c worth,

Todd

 

I would go so far as to schedule it or something. Like, you can only have sex on Saturday or something like that. Quitting cold-turkey might be a bit too extreme unless you have people helping to keep you abstinent. That way you could still sate your appetite but keep it from getting out of control.

Just a thought.