So I met someone two weeks ago at my friends party, a pool party. She came with a friend of mine too and it just came up that I was a lesbian and she told me that it was awesome 'cause she's pansexual. So a couple of guys ended up coming over and her friend kind of left her for one guy, so I kept her company which was fine since we got a long really well. We flirted quite a bit that day since she said the guys would probably end up flirting with the girls. I said that it wouldn't work on me and she was like that's fine If anything just flirt with me, so I was like okay and throughout the day she would call me babe or baby. So we were walking around town and my friend went up and held her hand and I quite randomly broke out in song quite dramatically and sang Justin Bieber's that should be me "that should be me holding your hand... etc" lame I know but it happened. So last night I was with my friend Michaela and we invited my crush to come to the movies with us to see the conjuring. I payed for my crushes ticket, and asked if she wanted a drink or any food, she said no. Get into the theatre and I find out she's not a fan of horror movies, which is so cute to me. She also sat right next to me and through it all I wanted to hold her hand, halfway through I finally worked up the nerve to put my hand out and she took it and held it throughout the rest of the movie. Complicated part is that I'm still in love with my ex, and been so for 3 years, I dated her on and off for about a year, I only dated one other girl after that, but I was a total dick during that relationship since there were still some lingering feelings from my past ex, but I really do like this girl and my ex has stopped talking to me without reason. To make things worst my friend Michaela is a pretty big flirt and also bi, she wants to tell my crush that I like her but I said no because that's childish and then she goes and tells me that she might have started developing feelings for the crush I have. I said we couldn't fight over someone, and she said she'd back off, but I'm a little scared considering she kissed her other friends crush and also went after that friends ex. I just really hope she doesn't screw me over, and I'm already confused about my ex and my crush. I don't even know if this girl likes me :S ah. Thoughts pleaseee
Wow, this is more complicated then my than the hierarchy of North Korea. First of all, you've gotta set your sights straight, who do you want the most, you can't have more than one. Secondly you must be sure that your crush is compatible for you before you go any further into this. Thirdly, you need to set some ground rules with your friends if you are going to admit to your crush. You need to tell her to stop kissing, etc... whatever makes you feel safe. Fourth, leave you ex behind, that's why they are called ex for a reason, being hungover on an ex in a relationship never works out. If you are still in love with your ex, you need to get over them, seriously you have to before you move on to love someone else. Otherwise it will hurt you and hurt them more when they find out that you still have feelings for someone else. Everything needs to be clear and set out before you act, or horrendous things will happen. I hope this helps. Good luck.
I know I'd really like to get over my ex, but I know it takes time and I am willing to wait not only to be with the other but for my self, because I've been burned a couple of times in the past by her. My friend said she wouldn't do anything so I guess I'll keep an eye on things and trust her 'til proven otherwise. So aside from the obstacles in my way, how do I get closer to her, find out if there are mutual feelings. I'm not used to approaching people with things like this, the girls I have dated have for the most part pursued me. Any ideas on what I can do, I already know her sexuality which is probably the first part, what now?