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What do I do? :(

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by trevmc, Jul 28, 2013.

  1. trevmc

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    Well im living with a my best friend now, lets just say this is a totally unique relationship, unlike any I cases here I have read before. Before you read this please understand its very hard though for me to express everything I need to tell you guys to get your opinions, there are alot of aspects to talk about. Im gay but in the closet still, im not sure if he is the same. Honestly speaking though the way we do things together, the way he talks to me etc, I just cant call it a "friend" relationship. Its like we are a couple but there is just no physical contact. Its so messed up because I totally feel like we both want something out of this, but just are to damn scared to mess anything up and admit it to each other.

    I have caught him many times now just looking at me, like literally I will be looking elsewhere and i can see in the corner of my eye he is just staring at me. When he talks to me he touches himself a lot! He is only himself aswell when he is with me, if we are with other people he will act very differently. I just feel a very stong connection with him when I talk even, the way he looks at me etc, it all just seems like something "beyond friendship". But I do not know if its all just in my head.

    Its just come to the point though now where we are both stuck at this point. I dont know if I should just give it time or what. I have even gone so far as to put a DNS on our wifi at home so I could see what websites he was visting (Yes...I know thats very wrong). He has gone to a gay forum and a website about gay life...but then there are also websites where he is looking at straight porn.

    So my question is, what do I do? What would you do in my situation. I really , really do not want to mess up anything between us, so I dont know if telling him im gay is a bad idea. I feel myself like he is not ready to come out if he is gay, he just says alot of irrational things sometimes whenever the topic of gay people comes up. Im really stuck guys, please help.
     
  2. SomeNights

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    You know noting risked = nothing gained. My advise would be to watch something with a "gay theme" or sub-theme and see what he thinks about it or bring up gay issues. see how he feels about gay ppl. Then, if you feel it's right come out to him and at that point you've "put the ball in his court" and the only thing left to do is sit back, watch and see if he bites.