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Meeting the Boyfriend's parents

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Beware Of You, Aug 11, 2013.

  1. Beware Of You

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    I now think me and my guy are becoming serious, he wants me to meet his parents and have sunday lunch with them.

    His parents are apparently okay and supportive (his Mum figured it out) with him being gay and he talks to them about me alot, the thing is his parents kinda scare me, I know this may be an Irish stereotype, but his Dad is an ex Catholic priest and his Mum is a psychotherapist.

    I dunno this would be a first for me, I used to be taught by priests, and I am in therapy ironically so I don't want to be all nervous.

    I mean his parents are probably lovely, they are very accepting of him, and they asked him to invite me over so they obviously want to meet me.

    Any ideas?
     
  2. BMC77

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    Disclaimer: I've never been in this position, since I've never been in a relationship.

    That said...

    Two thoughts:

    1. By all accounts, people are often nervous meeting the parents of whomever they are dating.
    2. Keep in mind that, as people, they go beyond what they currently do (therapist), or have done (priest).
     
  3. Deaderpool2

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    totally agree. let us know how it goes, tough if he talks to them about u alot u should be fine
     
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    Especially since the dad gave up what is supposed to be a lifetime occupation, they would likely be the last people to judge your relationship negatively. The mom may go into therapist mode at times, but she should know how to distinguish what should be kept in a clinical setting and what should be personal, family business.
     
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    This is a really significant step in your relationship, I commend him for bringing you to this important place, he must really, really love you...
     
  6. AAASAS

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    Do it.

    I was nervous about meeting my boyfriends parents, mainly because I work a crap job and am not in school; so I didn't want them to think I wasn't good enough for them.

    Nerves will be there regardless, and it's best just to do this.

    You will eventually become more comfortable with them, and will hopefully start looking forward to seeing them. Just think about that.
     
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    I know, I think he is serious
     
  8. darth vader

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    Go for it! Congrats!

    Just be yourself and observant.. and see how things will develop..
     
  9. Deaderpool2

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    so how did it go?
     
  10. Oxelotl

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    I for one am also curious as to this meeting.
     
  11. Ohhai

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    Playing meet the parents is always scary. They'll probably understand you to be nervous xx