Would it be weird if I asked him if he wanted to hangout?

Go talk to him and ask him out? Worse that is happens is he says no and its a little awkward. You aren't good friends. In fact, you don't really know him so I don't see much harm here.

If you want to start dating someone who is out, chances are you are going to have to come out of your comfort zone a little bit. Just saying...

 

I would say to at least try and see what you're comfortable with. You say that you're not out yet and to be honest, when someone who's not out gets involved with someone who is out, it can cause a lot of conflict. Get to know him a little better as a friend and then evaluate yourself and see how you feel. If he is asking for something more than jsut friends you will soon know and in my experience this is when the closet cases really start denying everything. Just take it slow. Maybe getting to know him will give you the courage you need to come out.

 

Instead of trying to make it a "date", or framing it in context of "hanging out", maybe you can come up with something specific. If he's into movies, perhaps invite him to go see one. Or a concert. Or a new museum exhibit. Or a sporting event. Anything to provide a specific pretext for inviting him along.

Lex

 

It's only awkward if you make it that way lol. Just be frank. "Hey man, I know you're leaving for college soon and I really regret not having the chance to get to know you! I'm planning on doing (so and so) and I wondered if you wanted to hang out with me buddy. If you're interested, let me know" That's what I would say at least.

 

If you said you know he is gay for sure, I would imagine he understands what its like and would not tell anyone if you were uncomfortable with it.

I would suggest what others said. Don't phrase it like a date. Ask him if he wants to do something fun with you and see where it goes from there.

 

I agree that first you two should be friends and then you should decide what you're comfortable with. Just invite him to see a movie or go get lunch or something. If you guy spend a few weeks/months just being friends maybe you will have come out by that time and then it'll be easier for you two to date, if you wanted that. Best wishes!

 

Don't make a big deal out of it, don't even make it a date. Just send him an email and say, "How about if we have coffee before you leave for college." Keep it simple as that.

Then, when you have coffee, just assume it is coffee between friends. Keep it low key. It's an opportunity to test the water.

This is supposed to be fun! Not difficult!

Good luck to you. Let me know how it turns out.

Milan

 

"Hey, never got a chance to hang out with you, and I'd like to get that in before you go. You available for lunch or coffee sometime soon?"

Cut. Paste. Post. Go.

Lex

 

Hi

If he has a BF all may not be lost, although perhaps not what you wanted you may have the possibility of acquiring 2 gay friends to be the start of your support group for coming out later. They may also introduce you to other gay guys.