So this is what happened today.

Get the pizza, share it with your boyfriend.

 

You stood your ground quite well, actually, although I'm sure tensions were running high.

It would be unfortunate if they do get cut out of your life, but I can understand why. It's going to take time for them to accept this, if they ever do.

Now is the time for you and Brendan to build your own network of support, the LGBT group in your school is the place to start, which you have, but don't stop there. Reach out to people who understand, and build together your own circle of friends.

 

You kept your cool.

When you go off to college, since you evidently won't be commuting based on your dorm questions, you'll be further away from them. They'll probably appreciate you more when you're home. I wouldn't cut them out of your life. It just sounds like they've got strong personalities, and always have. College will also keep you intellectually and socially busy. Right now, it's home on the range ... and runs to Little Caesar's, but not for much longer.

Hang on and see if "absence makes the heart grow fonder."

 

How likely do you think it is that you will cut her out of your life completely?

I only ask because if you're planning on leaving home and then not speaking to her, you may as well ask her exactly what she means by "I'll pray for you"! If you're lucky she might reconsider her position, at worst you're not that much worse off..

 

I seriously hope that her love for you overwhelms any anti-gay sentiments she might have. "I'll pray for you" is highly disconcerting, but maybe eventually God will show her it's alright.

At least you have Brendan; I wish you guys luck.

 

I would defs want to watch that episode.

 

It's terrible how religion (since you mentioned prayer) tears families apart over something that, as you put it, is not their business. Having said that, you're moving soon, so you don't need this pressure of 'cutting ties.' Just try to let it go for now and focus on your new life, free from their intrusions. Check back near thanksgiving. Maybe their attitude will change by then. I don't know about the dynamics of your extended family, but usually it's tolerable if at least the parents come around. If not, maybe you won't want to go back.

 

It sounds like you did a good job "under fire" when your mother confronted you.

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I think I agree with others about not cutting your mom out completely now. Be prepared for that possibility one day, yes, but do it now, no. Relationship between children and parents changes at about your point in life. The picture could well look different 5 years from now.

---------- Post added 19th Aug 2013 at 08:44 PM ----------

That is ridiculous.

One reason people go to college: to become independent. How does that happen if you are texting 3 times a day?

---------- Post added 19th Aug 2013 at 08:47 PM ----------

Perhaps the University of Mars?

140 miles should be OK. It's a great enough distance to rule out weekend visits each week. At least under normal circumstances.

 

In college there's this great excuse for anything you don't want to do: I'm busy.

If you want to get more flippant (and possibly honest), "I was too drunk/hung over, no texting in class, no one else calls their parents *every* day."

 

Ugh, my mum likes to yell too... sounds like it could've gone alot worse.

 

THat would take balls the likes of which I've never seen, but given how you handled the situation so far doesn't seem impossible!

I'm of the opinion if you're going to cut out all family you may as well have a solid reason, if that means introducing them to your boyfriend then so be it. If it were me I'd rather never speak to someone again because of something they said or did than something I though would happen!

 

Yea...just give them time, time heals all wounds. You shot them in the foot and walked away. You did the best thing you could have done by taking complete control of the situation. So don't give up on them, they are just confused at this new and unexpected information. You are and always will be their little boy.

 

A lot of parents react angrily when they find out their child might be gay.. It's not ideal and it's hurtful to hear, but at the same time, parents aren't perfect... They are just people. And moreover, they are the people that raised you..However you may feel right now, I'm sure your parents held you when you were a baby, nurtured you as a child and the whole time they will have (consciously/sub-conscioulsy) been dreaming about you growing-up and, in a way, imagining about how you would "turn out" and how your life would be.. Parents tend to do that. So when they find out that you perhaps "not what they expected" or morevoer, that your life would not be what they expected for you, they tend to lose it a little... And they have to go through feelings of denial, anger, grief etc. to get to the acceptance part, just like many people do when they realise they are gay...

I guess what I'm saying is, give them time and a bit of understanding.. You've obviously been coming to terms with your sexuality a lot longer than they have.. acceptance will (hopefully) come with a little time and effort on both sides.

Maybe the order to "go get pizza" was an olive branch of sorts..

All the best