I feel like crying.

Hi sweetie,

I am sorry it's not easy. I would suggest calling a help line.

If your parents are not this way about other things, they are perhaps scared and don't understand and don't know what to do. When you were little and they thought you were doing something wrong or dangerous, they could forbid you to do that. Now they are following the same pattern because they don't know how to deal with something they don't understand or like.

I am not trying to tell you that what they are doing is right.

If you have enough strength, fight them. But if you don't want to, perhaps don't mention it, let them think that the "phase" was really a phase. And try to bring it up sometime in the future again.

Try to work on your safety net. If your parents can't be there for you when you are feeling suicidal, try to find a good friend who you can trust. Or come here every time you feel bad.

 

And they say gays would make bad parents.

I'm really sorry, dear. (*hug*) I have no idea how to reply to something like that, but honestly, what she's doing... You're a minor. This must qualify as child abuse, no? Can't you go to a school couselor or something? Tell them how your mom is bullying you. Maybe they can talk to her, or call child protective services to do an investigation.

I have a good friend whose mother was constantly bullying him too, driving him crazy. Maybe she's doing this as a strategy to "set you straight", like his mom did with him. What he did was move to another country. Now she seems to be nice to him... when she's thousands of miles away. You're only 16 though, so you probably can't do something like that. Is there any friendly relative you could move in with?

 

And OP...



big hug for you

 

Those are the same sort of things my mom likes saying to me (though i am only gay, not trans).

It hurts, it really does. but you will excape soon enough, just hold true to yourself, and dont let it get to your head. Have friends that support you, that will help a lot

 

My mom did much the same thing. Accusing me of wanting to mutilate myself, telling me that she thought I was full of shit, and claiming she knows me better than I know myself. She tried to accuse the fact that I have gay friends as a reason why I'm trans.

I honestly can't wait for university and frankly hope I have to be in a dorm/apartment situation.

 

First off I hope you know everything she is saying is conpletely false and there are a lot of people out there who are just like you and would support you. You aren't alone. I thankfully have a supportive mom (who doesn't know yet) so I cannot say that I can relate in that sense. BUT I would most definitely talk to a counselor about it, maybe having another adult talk to her about how her treatment of you is severely damaging would be a wake-up call. She is obviously very afraid of what she doesn't understand, as are a lot of people. But she needs to be supportive of you no matter what.

tl;dr: get a third party to help you out, preferrably another adult.

 

Those sound like the words of a very ignorant person. Sounds like she doesn't know the first thing about what you feel inside. :tears:

I hope one day it'll click into place.

Everyone here understands you though. (&&&)

 

She's the stupid one here, if anybody is. I'm sorry to hear what you're going through right now, and I really can't give any good advice about this since I've never had it happen to me. All I can really say is you're not stupid, you're awesome. I would find some friends that will support you no matter what, and whenever you're feeling down in the dumps or something, go to them or come here for advice. Also if you're feeling bad, I would say do something that you love to do to try to vent, whether it be listen to music, write, etc. And remember to smile, because you are awesome and perfect! (*hug*)

 

It's good that you can talk to your aunt. If I were you I would do anything you can to become financially independent. Work hard in school. Get the best grades you can and apply for scholarships when the time comes. It is possible to support yourself as much as you can. If you can, I would try to get a job. Save up money to use for college and it'll get you some time away from the house. Stay tough <3

 

i feel like crying for you. a hug instead (*hug*). we are here for you

 

Hi. I'm really sorry to hear this is happening to you.
I have a good friend who was dating my other best celebs and her pparents are super homophobes. Basically she got physical and mental abused. Me and my 2 close friends called the police and there's nothing they can do unless you tell them what's happening at hom. And this is just bad parenting. Really bad, but not technically child abuse. I'm sorry to say.
I know you can do it.. Many of us do. Gaga bless

 

I send you lots and lots of love, remember you can always come here and just talk it out, don't keep bad things in your heart or mind, you're really important and beautiful inside out and no matter who you are or who you decide to love you deserve to be happy

 

In defense of your parents, they do not understand. They believe you are a deviant because of your "abnormal" attraction.

In defense of you, sexually, your parents attraction to each other is "abnormal." You are a transgendered female (m2f). This is "normal" for you. Others do not understand or want to understand what your feelings are. These people, including your parents, want to put you in a box. Act "normal" dammit. You are acting normal. The normal of a transgendered individual. This is your normal.

You are young. Do not rock the boat. It sounds like you may be on the streets if you are not careful. Rein in your passion around your parents when your friends come over. I would seek the school counselor or someone in the LGBT community. Call the LGBT helpline. you can Google this. There may be a LGBT resource office close to your home. Call or visit them. You are in my prayers, I do not totally understand M2F. However, I know what it is to be gay. You are experiencing something similar. You need to talk to someone, and do it soon. It may save your life. If you feel suicidal, talk to someone, discount what your parents say. DO NOT HURT YOURSELF! There are a lot of transgendered individuals in the community. You may want to call the MCC (Metropolitan Community Church) and explain your plight. This church may put in contact with a transgendered individual. I hope this helps. Contact me if you need to chat.