I guess I need to write an intro.. I'm Picklemummy.. and I'm in my mid 30s in a relationship with a toddler. I found out earlier this week that my fiance of 3 years is bisexual- I found photos on a memory card and followed the trail to a profile on a bi/ gay cruising site and videos there that suggested strongly that hes been unfaithful and more worringly, unsafe in the last year- if not more recently than that. I'm totally devastated- please don't think that its because he's bi but because he's lied to me and cheated on me. My best friend is a lesbian who came out while she was married and I've been talking to her a lot over the past few days. The real problem is the fact that he doesn't seem to want to accept who he is- hes just clammed up totally, refusing to talk or anything. I know that his upbringing hasn't really given much support to the idea of homosexuality/ anything other than straight and thats not going to help but how can he join a cruising site and hook up but not talk to his fiance who is a supporter? Can anyone suggest anything? I'm tearing out my hair, its too much like :bang::bang: its as though he just doesn't want to admit what he is, who he is and sweep it all under the carpet... but I know if he does this it will make stress etc worse from self non-acceptance and we've no hope of even a friendship if he can't talk to me anymore. I've given him a link to a local helpline but AFAIK he hasn't rung it yet. Please can someone help or suggest something? :tears::tears:
