Advice on how to deal with my mum

Welcome to EC.

It was hard for my parents when I first had told them as well about my first girlfriend. They put me through a ton of extra therapy and thought maybe I had some mental issues going on because I had stopped taking my ADD medication about a year prior to coming out to them.

I'm not sure how old you are but maybe she is just assuming that you're at a stage where your hormones are going crazy and is thinking it may just be in your head because of that. Just try to assure her that this is who you are and be strong for your own sake. It takes parents a while to come around sometimes. Just know that she's dealing with this in possibly the only way she knows how and do what you think is right and what feels right to you.

My thoughts are really that even if they do come back negative or abnormal or whatever they do, the treatment won't change who you are on the inside. Maybe it would help your mom adjust if you did go through with it for a little bit and then talking to her and telling her you feel the same way as you did prior. Either that, or sit down with her and talk to her and tell her how her thinking you have irregularities really makes you feel. I'm sure she isn't saying it to try to offend or hurt you in any way and is just still possibly in shock.

Best of luck to you.

 

Hey When i came out as lesbian my mum wanted to believe it was because of my high testosterone levels (i have polycystic ovaries). She wanted me to see my doctor and ask about it. I guess as parents, they go through a denial stage too sometimes. I understand that you feel awful, but the only thing that really seems to help these things is time. Shell come to terms with it in her own way, but i totally get how you feel. Hope it gets better soon

 

It does doesnt it xD At least you know who you are, and no medication could change that even if you wanted it too. Best of luck

 

First off, I can understand why you would want to make your mum happy....but if the expense of that sacrifice is you being unhappy, is it worth it?

At 22 you are legally an adult, your body is your temple and if you don't want doctors sticking needles in to take blood out it is your right to say no. To be coerced or given an ultimatum is harassment and abuse.

If you are proud of who you are, then don't let anyone take that pride and joy away from you. It is your mum that has to change and adapt, not you

 

My cousin has PCOS and she's straight. I know a girl who has PCOS and she's straight. Both have high testosterone. It has zero correlation to sexual orientation!