my family is against gays and gay marriage

Dont listen to your family, they dont know better in this case, maybe they are people you love and admire, maybe you want their approval, and they probably have experience in many things and have helped you in the past. But they are not aleays right, parents and grand parents make mistakes.

Dont feel guilty about this, you havent done anything bad by being gay, there is nothing wrong with loving , there is nothing wrong with wanting to be with a girl and hold hands and having your bodies in contact and living in the same house, and lo ing each other, and walking in the park, listenig to music, watching movies, helping each other in hardship....there is nothing badabout it, as matter of fact what i just described what is also what i want, and it cannot be that for me pursuing that is good while for you is bad, just because you happen to be female and i a guy, that would be infinitely unfair.

I believe in God, but since a while my faith in god doesnt depend on any religion as i think no good god would send someone to hell just because you love someone. So your family dont have any reason or base to say all those ugly things.

Go to the world and love who you want to love, and lets hope your family change as they sees you happy with a woman. If not, that is their problem.

Now, on practical advice... Start as soon as possible to build a new family network composed by close friends, helpers, advicers, supporters, people you know personally, people at the internet (like us in EC), support groups (those where you go and meet other people and talk about your lives) ,make strong friendships, and above all be strong.

Is not going to be easy, certainly not, but you can do it with personal strength, and if you live throught it with persistence, one day you might find happyness. Dont give up, give life a chance, even if just out of curiosity of wanting to know what will life bring you next, you might get a good surpirse one day, specially if you have hope.

I will send you a thousand hugs and loves and kitties and rainbows and everything nice (*hug*)

:goodluck:

 

Your family sounds like an amplified version of mine. Yeah don't listen to them, and don't sacrifice who you are or what you want just to make them happy. It isn't worth it. You only have one life and you need to pursue your own happiness.

I wish you the best (*hug*)

 

As I was reading your first post I was almost like :tears: and when I finished it and all I just wanted to (*hug*). I'm repeating the same track as everyone above me, don't listen to your family.

Real families support each other through everything no matter what it is. If your family can't see that you're happy when you're with a woman than you don't need them. Anyone who would want you to deny part of yourself to make them happy doesn't love you. I know that's a harsh thing to say towards family, but it's true. I know. Not everyone in my family loves me though for different reasons than the gender of people I like.

As for the part about guys sending you pics, just tell them but be polite about it unless they refuse to listen to you. If you don't like them sending pics then stop them so you don't have to see 'em all the time.

 

Slowly begin building one (*hug*)

 

Just remember that there are lots of people who feel like you do, think you don't do anything wrong by being gay and can support you.
Start making supportive friends and building confidence.
Lots of hugs (*hug*)
You can be proud of who you are.

 

Hey, how old are you?

 

@OP

I understand your feeling disgust, even betrayed, of your family's ignorance. I still receive it after almost a year, but there has been some progress from where it was originally. Here's my intro post if you need to read it.

Do you have any siblings who you can talk to when you can't stand your parents/grandparents, or other elders? Also, are you in college? There might be some resources at your campus, or at the very least a PFLAG or other support group within your community.

Time will change your inner attitudes and the attitudes of those around you will change