Cute guy absolutely won't leave me alone?!

Lots of people are able to date and have a social life while at the same time succeeding at their studies. You just have to figure out the right routine to balance between the two.

You have a cute guy who is into you, and it sounds to me like you actually do want to date him, so I would say to go for it. Let him know that you're going to still need time to study and stuff, talk to him about your feelings and concerns. Trust and transparency are necessary in relationships.

But if you really don't want to date him, then just tell him that and explain why. He'll understand.

(Though if I were you I would totally go for it, I wish I had a cute guy obsessing over me )

 

Just tell him how you feel. To put the words in your mouth "Hey, I realize you have feelings for me, but right now I need to focus on school and I don't have time for a relationship right now."

Of course, you can't expect him to remain exclusive to you, since he seems like such a romantic. It's a grades vs. romance situation. You could always add that you'd be open to a relationship, but he'd have to be mindful to let you have your time -- that is, if you can handle it.

 

You're sending mixed signals to him. Either that or he thinks you're being coy and playing hard to get. If you want him to leave you alone, be up front about it and just say you want to focus on your studies. What's wrong with the straightforward (no pun intended) approach?

The other question for you is, are you even interested in this guy? You say he's cute but you seem annoyed or irritated by him. He's clearly interested in you. Best to set the record straight (again no pun intended ).

 

Well, if you're not out and not comfortable, then I would back off, and be kind when you tell him. Otherwise, burst forth from that closet!

Not to use your quotes against you, but you did say you went to a party with him, but then you'll have no social life... I'm getting the feeling that you are very torn being squished in that closet door, more so than you say.

 

I mean you could just be honest and leave open the possibility in the future. Of course, he may go onto someone else and you end turning down a potential soul mate. Life presents these difficult choices. One other thing is you could just meet up like once a week or something? At least to maintain his interest and give yourself a break.

 

What do you think a relationship looks like time wise? I dated a guy in a residency program in Veterinary Medicine and he was hellabusy. We would be sleeping and he would get emergency calls about a dog at 2 am. But ya know, we worked it out. You have to eat. Thus a dinner date. I have hung out with engineering majors at the Air Force Academy and their schedule sucked. But they still got out for dinner, football games and a good night of booze in Colorado Springs! ;-)

 

Go for him. Don't lose this opportunity! Its very hard to come by a guy you like, never mind one that is actually forward about his feelings for you too. Believe me, getting this relationship with him might actually boost your mood and improve your grades. Do not let this chance to be with a truly loving and caring man slip by.

 

Hi Puppy1000.

My boyfriend and I are both in the medical field with crazy schedules (he's still studying). Plus I am happily married with a very understanding wife and have 3 kids (who are my number 1 priority). Some times the only way we can get to see each other is when he is studying (he almost lives at the hospital/university at the moment!). I go to his place with my book / work and keep myself busy while he hits the books. I make him supper / take him coffee and we get to hang out when he has a study break. He is very appreciative that I'm so understanding and supportive and the post studying sessions are a great reward

We also gym together, have dinner together when we can, etc.

So what I'm trying to say is: if you like this guy and you guys actually TALK about your lives / schedules / expectations etc. you will definitely find a way to make it work. Good luck.

 

I have a solution. Give me his number (!)

 

Like others here, I'd say go for it. You've got a guy you admit you really like who seems to really like you.

Are you sure you aren't really more concerned about getting hurt again than your grades? Because it is near impossible and not really healthy to do non-stop studying and NEVER have a social life/take a break in college. Eventually you will burn out and your grades will suffer. On the flip side, having a guy you really like in your life can boost your energy and morale and lead to better grades and discipline because you have soomething to look forward to for free time.

He's in college to and assuming he cares about his grades will also need to study. Have an honest conversation with him about your study concerns and then see about developing coordinated schedules that let you both get the work and studying done as needed and with good grades while also allowing for time together for fun and games (not just in bed but in general). Honest and open communication is the hallmark of every successful relationship and I'd suggest using it as much as you both need.

There's a vast spectrum of options between non-stop studying and non-stop partying. With dedication and practice you can learn to navigate a good path between these two extremes. And it sounds like you've got someone who's interested in walking that path with you.

Go forth, conquer, and have fun.

Todd

 

Go for it! Don't turn down the chance to have a great guy in your life. As Todd said, if you can coordinate your schedules then you can make it work. The idea may seem hard but you have to work to keep any relationship going. Why should yours be any different?

 

I'd say go for it. Really. Be honest with him and tell him that you care about your grades, but you do like him.
Honesty is the best policy in this case, if you like him.

 

Definitely go for it, if you really want it you can make it work. I'm going through this right now, being with a guy when I'm not totally out. Things can be difficult but a lot of times they work themselves out, it's worth it.

Don't miss your chance! You need happiness or you'll go crazy


P.S. I'm also a double major undergrad