I had an encounter with my straight friend

No way in hell that guy is straight.

 

If you're old enough to be having sex at school (I assume HS stands for high school?), you're old enough to talk to him face to face about what you're thinking. So text him and tell him you want to have a talk!

 

I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU CALL IT! TEXT HIM!

Lol, just be like 'hey I'd really like to have talk to you about what's going on with'.

 

Most likely he's feeling as much or more confusion than you are.

You say you're bi-curious. Fair enough. But you presumably put some degree of thought into that realization as well as the decision to allow yourself to explore your curiosity.

In contrast, he may not have thought about any such thing at all until you asked him about it. Or maybe he has but has been trying to suppress it or deny it. Then you come along and suddenly he's being hit with urges and feelings he doesn't know how to deal with. Or the feelings have become too strong to suppress and keeping breaking free (resulting in your various sexual adventures). Yet at the same time he keeps telling you (and himself) that he's straight.

This may be due to a variety of reasons, ranging from him not fitting his idea/stereotype of what a 'not straight' guy is, to family or religious issues making it hard for him to accept himself during the time when he's not doing stuff with you. Maybe he thinks/hopes it's just a phase. Maybe he's wracked with guilt and shame when he's not around you. Or whatever.

Based on what he's saying (he loves you) he may be working his way thru this, or struggling with it. Regardless, it sounds like you need to talk to him and let him know you're supportive of him as he works thru it. Part of me thinks it would be a good thing for him to come onto EC, but that might be rather awkward if you're both here and the subject of each others threads. Not sure if that sort of thing has happened before (anyone know?).

Be patient, be caring, be honest, and dont try to push him to go faster than he's ready to.

Hope this helps,

Todd

 

Yeah, as said above, he is definitely not straight xD
At the very least, he's bisexual, especially if you've done that stuff multiple times. Did he strike you as straight because he's the stereotypical jock type, or because he has overtly expressed interest in women and/or has a girlfriend?

He could very well be just as confused about his sexuality as you are abou yours, and could be afraid of the social repercussions that could come about if he openly admitted his feelings for you (which is understandable, considering it's high school). That said, that doesn't make it okay for him to screw with your feelings. If you feel so strongly about him, the best thing you can do is meet with him and have a real talk about what's going on between the two of you.

Good luck!

 

So you've got a straight fuck-chum. What's the problem?

If you're enjoying the sex, just accept that he'll be your friend to the world at large, and your lover once the door is closed. But don't expect it to extend beyond that.

Lex