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  1. MerBear

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    Okay so I can't tell how my sister feels about me coming out. she said, she already accepts me apparently but last night, she looked at my books and said

    "why are you reading about lesians and shit" and threw my book on the floor or so i assume and then today, she asked me

    "do you like any girls right now?' and i said "no" and then she brought up this girl courtney whom i'm talking to and asked me if i liked her and then she asked me
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    do you have any crushes on any girls?" and I said "no" and she asked

    "why not?" and i said, i don't.

    when she first found out about me questioning my sexuality, she said it was just a phase and I feel, she's trying to hint around that again

    because ....i feel, she is trying to say

    "if you like girls, why don't you have any crushes on any?"

    like, as if she is trying to test my sexuality or something, i feel she really is. i wouldn't be surprised and also, she saw my background on my computer which is a hispanic girl in a bikini outfit and she scuffed at me.

    she scuffed and said "wow, okay..." and got up and left.

    i don't know, what she is trying to hint around at but so far, i feel she is trying to test me to see, if my sexuality is genuine or not.

    I don't know. what do you think?
     
    #1 MerBear, Sep 14, 2013
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    I think she's angry with you for being lesbian which is sad. :frowning2:

    *Hugs*
     
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    how so?
     
    #3 MerBear, Sep 14, 2013
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    From my perspective she seems annoyed and frustrated at you. She probably thinks you are making the whole thing up to be "cool" or something. That's just my opinion though. I could be wrong.
     
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    no, it makes sense
     
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    She seems to want answers that you can't possibly give to her right now. Don't let her get under your skin. She's just worried about you right now. She's not being intentionally malicious. She's probably as confused as you are. It'll probably take a few years to figure out who you really are. Don't let anyone pressure you. :slight_smile:
     
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    well, i gave her answers. i told her, i don't like any girls or have any crushes on girls

    but apparently, thats not enough, i guess.

    i feel, she is kind of testing me though, i dont know why, i feel that way
     
    #7 MerBear, Sep 14, 2013
  8. Miles16

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    It does seem like kind of a 'test,' especially considering she'd previously suggested it was just a phase - but it's not a good test since not having a crush doesn't deny your sexuality. I can't say I've ever really crushed on anyone.

    Best you can do is answer honestly and don't let it get to you.
     
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    i did answer honestly :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    but i don't know, i won't let it get to me but she does have this bad habit of making fun of me -_-

    thank you :slight_smile:
     
    #9 MerBear, Sep 14, 2013
  10. Miles16

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    Sorry, I should have said keep answering honestly :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    But siblings can be like that - it's normal. Is she older or younger? (Or a twin perhaps?)
     
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    she's older but she's viciously mean.

    and she did AGAIN tonight, i said

    "lauren (my friend) have better not gotten me sick"

    and she said "quit making out with lauren then"

    and I have never made out with my friend lauren, nor have liked her or shown any interest towards her.

    and yet, my sister says that?, i wonder why
     
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    You probably need to avoid her or stop talking to her.
     
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    Actually, I think it would be better if you asked your sister if she has any problem with you. It seems to me like there's an avoidance game going on, where neither of you want to address the topic and bad air going on between you two...
    She said that she accepted you for being lesbian, right? She could be just angry for a whole different reason, and it doesn't even have to be you. Granted, my sister's younger than me, but she takes out her anger on me through pointed and unpleasant comments :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: It sounds similar to your situation.
    Just keep things as civil as possible, and I hope it'll turn out okay! :thumbsup:
    ... and funnily enough, I just had some skittles.
     
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    she wasn't angry about anything ...she just decided, to ask randomly

    and she may say, she accepts me but she has a reputation for lying
     
    #14 MerBear, Sep 15, 2013
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    She definitely seems to be leaning towards the negative side of receiving the news.
    Whenever she makes a witty remark, what do you say? You shouldn't be aggressive but if you feel she wants justification, go ahead and explain it to her.

    When she says "if you like girls, why don't you have any crushes on any?", tell her that your attraction works the same way as hers, you just haven't found the right person yet (if that's true for you).

    I like KyleD's suggestion to cut contact with her for a while - let the information coagulate. BUT what I don't want to see is her getting the wrong information, thinking things the wrong way and becoming unsupportive. I think you need to educate her about homosexuality.
     
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    She told me today that shw doesnt think, I'm really lesbian and she emphasized the really. So I was right
     
    #16 MerBear, Sep 15, 2013
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    maybe she's gay too,and hasnt come to terms with it
     
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    hahaha. no ..no....she's not gay, believe me. she has a husband and has always liked guys
     
    #18 MerBear, Sep 15, 2013
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    Sorry to hear your sister is being so difficult to read and it does sound like she is testing your sexuality but for what reason I have no clue y anyone would need to do that because its ur life...funny world we live in...people r so obsessed with who is gay and its funny how straight people don't have to prove their sexuality is genuine
     
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    i hate that, my past with guys makes everything more complicated because now, everyone is confused and think, im lying.

    I knew my sister wouldn't believe me.
    what does it mean anyways when someone emphasizes the word really?
     
    #20 MerBear, Sep 15, 2013
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