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Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by fluteloop, Sep 15, 2013.

  1. fluteloop

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    This girl that I dated, almost 6 months ago, is telling me she likes me again. I like her back, and everyone is telling me she is no good. I don't know what to do. Everyone is saying she doesn't like me and then she is saying she does, and I don't know who to believe. Her, or my friends?
     
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    Actions speak louder than words, and it's probably best to first start by remaking your friendhsip with this girl versus going headlong into dating again.
    Why did you break up the first time?
    Do you think it would happen again, and would you be able to anticipate it?

    You should always look into the motivations of why people say things. Here are some examples:
    How much do you trust your friends on whether they support you?
    How sure are you about what they're reporting about this girl?
    Have you told her about the rumors so she can give her side of the story?
     
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    I agree with resu on this one. You don't want your heart to be shattered again, so inch into a friendship first.
     
  4. fluteloop

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    Well, we broke up the first time because some people were hurting us, so we decided to stay friends instead. My friends have never liked her, but I do not know what to do, or think, about it. Everyone is telling me she's bad for me, and I could do better. I don't know how the second time would turn out :/
     
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    Why do people say she's bad for you? This is weird for people to just dislike someone out of the blue. It seems like they must have some reason, either made up or real.
     
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    I agree there must be some reason your friends feel she is no good for you... I think that you need to look into this more before going back into a relationship with her you don't want to end up hurt again.. if you do end up getting back with her I would suggest you take your time, take it slow and see how things play out
     
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    Thanks all