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Bi/Queer Son... Closeted Father?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Meribor, Sep 15, 2013.

  1. Meribor

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    Hey, in considering my father's pretty much non-reaction when I came out to him as bisexual and genderqueer I remembered that I've wondered a little bit about him, too.

    I came out to my Mom months ago and she was with me when I told him. A non-reaction is better than a bad reaction, I guess. Granted it's been just two weeks, and I know that acceptance can take years, if it ever comes at all. I guess I just there'd be... something.

    The instances that make me question my father's sexuality are exactly three. Taken separately, they are explained away easily enough, but together I think there's enough to warrant asking him about it at some point.

    They are:
    1. His love of Provincetown, MA.
    Explanation: He really did love beaches before his advancing age made walking them too difficult, and Provincetown is a really cool place besides. He loves this one restaurant called, Michael's.

    2. The gay western porno DVD I unearthed years ago when I was in the dark about my own sexuality and gender.
    Explanation: My father is crazy into Western films and books. I don't consider it crazy that he happened upon this at some porn shop and wondered.... Then, after watching the video, if he ever did, he could have realized it wasn't for him and got rid of it. I haven't looked, but haven't seen it for years.

    3. More recently, the gay men's nudist resort directory for, I think, the whole US. I found it in his tool chest where there isn't a real expectation of privacy. The brochure featured several nude photos of men.
    Explanation: uhh... this is a stretch, but he works at a rental car place and often enough comes across things people leave behind in the cars. Also, as I said above, he really likes beaches.

    I guess I could also include his unenthusiastic reaction to my taking interest in his "excuse" trip because I legitimately thought it sounded cool.

    So, first, do you think he could be closeted? And two, how to broach the topic with him?
     
  2. PyroSpark

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    He might be bi.


    Not quite sure how to go about asking him, or if that's even worth doing.
     
  3. Mrcake

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    He's probably not gay... Some straight people like gay things. For example, a straight person might actually like anal stimulation.
     
  4. He might just be curious or bisexual. You CAN ask him, but given the things you found that make you question his sexuality, it might be a bit awkward. I think he'd be embarrassed that you found his porn DVD...unless it was your mom's.