Mistaken for straight and not fixing it--bad?

Coming out of the closet isn't a race. It isn't wrong to not answer at this point, because you still aren't fully out. Just don't lie about it or anything and just take your time with answering. It gets easier once you are out to everybody. You are just in the awkward and pimply stage of homosexuality. Being open gets easier, just don't stress yourself too much about coming out. You have to do everything at your own pace.

 

I'm actually in a similar situation right now. I desperately want to be out to everyone, but I'm really afraid of the social and relational repercussions it could have at this point, since I'm still in high school, especially since my sisters don't know yet and I feel like they have a right to know before I tell more people outside our family. I keep telling myself to wait until college, but I'm really impatient, and pretending to be something I'm not is really not my thing.

So trust me, I know how you feel it seems like both of us just need to be a bit more patient and take it slow, even though it's tough.

 

You are not alone buddy!

If you say you feel ready to come out, the obstacle which you're probably facing then is just fear of the unknown. It's all just about facing that fear (which I know is easier said than done, given that my natural tendency is to avoid the fear by procraaaaaaastination). Baby steps though, you got this.

 

Feels like walking on eggshells.. I also experience the same thing at work and among my friends who don't know. They tirelessly want to set me up with different gals who are available. It's making me sick really. At times I just want to scream to the whole world who I really am and what I really want.. But it's never easy.. You have to consider a lot of factors.

 

I have only two people at work who know about me. One has a big mouth so that can be pretty helpful in getting the word out there. She called me over to a window to check out a guy, in front of a coworker. I hope he took the hint lol I'm not just some straight guy who happens to be the authority on whether or not a dude is hot

Have I come out to anyone at work though? No, I will wait til it comes up. I've been careful to say "my ride" instead of "my boyfriend."

 

Eh, mixing your personal life into work can be messy. You can try to weasel out by saying you'd rather not say, but they'll probably ask if you're gay. I mean, if you don't want to tell them, just tell them that you're seeing someone.. I mean, I don't like to help others make shit up, but I get what you're saying about wanting to tell family first, but it's not always practical. If you want to get the pressure off, just tell them you'd prefer to keep your personal life to yourself. They'll think you're a dick haha, but so what!

 

God, why does coming out have to be so hard? You feel like you're in purgatory suffering unnecessarily. Yeah, I think so too. If I come out to my family, things will be SO much easier. BUT, you know, it wouldn't be easy in one sense because our families will have a hard time to adjust. Think about the things that they have to go through after they find out about us. They have to face inquiries, criticisms, condescending remarks from other people on our behalf. Relatives, coworkers, friends, neighbors, people in the church etc. You see? Our families will also face the stigma and discrimination to a certain extent. All these years, this has been keeping me, preventing me, from coming out to them!

 

To me, it is nearly impossible for me to cone out to anyone in my family since all of them are homophobic. However, it isn't that hard to come out to some of my best friends since they are knowing and willing to support me.

So people in your family are only bonded to you by blood. That's different from friendship and I would advise you to start with those you feel most comfortable with, still relatives could also be your friends, it depends on what you see them as.

 

You are 100% not the only one in this kind of situation. As far as anyone around me knows I'm totally straight, and I never bother to correct them or tell them otherwise because...well frankly because right now it's none of their f'ing business! If and when I want to tell them I will, and not a second before - and you shouldn't feel pressured to tell people you don't want to either.