EC Jocks i need your help with this crush!

Aww. This is cute. I'll tell you like I tell everyone else here, with tough love. You have to have a genuine interest in this person. Liking someone because they're cute doesn't make you compatible for one another. My mother knows a shit load about sports.. you know why? Because her son loves sports! She knows that if she wants to bond with me, sports is the quickest way to do it. She doesn't like it enough to watch it with me, but she knows enough to make a man satisfied. If you don't want to put that work in, then you're likely never going to be friends. Now, if you want to try to get in with him, you're going to have to play sports with him, but don't expect him to want to be warm and fuzzy, he'll likely want to keep the conversation sports related. It can and will work if you put effort into him though. In the course of watching or playing sports, throw in some of your own questions to be more acquainted with him. Asking him where he's from or what he likes. Really get to know him and you'll be fine. No one here can tell you a different way to get to a jock unless he's gay of course. If he's not gay and bi curious, the only way to get the curious side out would be to relate to him and then push the envelope a little because he'll feel comfortable with you at that point. Safeguard your emotions though dude. It can be painful to be rejected. If you can't see yourself being his friend on the sports level, then don't anticipate much else.

 

In my opinion, regardless of whether you are seeking a friend or relationship, anyone that can not hold a conversation with you outside of any specific topic is probably not a good applicant for the job.

From beginning to present, there are very few friends and acquaintances that I have had who I genuinely shared common hobbies and interests, outside of classes, organizations, etc (Loving reading and writing as hobbies will often make things that way). Yet I have always been very social and gotten along well with various different types of people.

One of my best friends(And past romance, but we're not going to get into to that) in middle school and early high school was a sports junkie, and we were basically attached at the hip for quite a few years. It wasn't difficult. He knew I was not the one to seek to talk about sports. He discussed them with other friends. Its that simple.

Sure, its nice if you have mutual hobbies with friends, but a large reason to have a hobby to begin with is to entertain you when you are bored. If you can't enjoy yourself with someone without outside stimulation, then you should probably seek companionship elsewhere. In regards to this guy in particular, its always a toss up, but regardless I would just try to talk to him and see who he actually is as a person. Just because he enjoys sports doesn't mean they are the center of his life.

 

True, great post. The use of the word "jock" made me respond more favorably to the idea that the guy is going to be consumed with sports, whether for pleasure or for the fact that he's involved with team sports. There's always a place for someone special to get in there and know the other side of him, but without any evidence that he could be gay, it sounds like you're just going out on a limb to see if there's a chance. If you want to be with a curious dude, you do have to play on their own terms for a while. I've been there and done that, and it'll leave you feeling pretty damn empty on your list of needs.

 

Well, I was a jock and I was gay. I was hit on by Frat boys in college that had no interest in Football, and I was fine with it. I played football at a Div 1 school and my jock buddies and I talked about alot of other stuff than sports. I think you should relate to his other interests as well.