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The cute guy in class, dare I befriend?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by penguin machine, Sep 22, 2013.

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  1. penguin machine

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    We all know him. And most of us (I suspect) wonder if and/or hope that he's gay. Tomorrow, I need to put together a group for the class I share with one of my cute guys. I've never spoken to him, I don't see that he knows anybody in the class, and I have been contemplating trying to befriend him, for no real reason. I'm not going to go after him, he could introduce himself as "gay as the spring rain," and I'd still have a great boyfriend I wouldn't leave for any reason.

    Given that I'm largely just fascinated by his incredible boyish good-looks, should I offer him a position in my group? (I don't know anyone else in the class either)
     
    #1 penguin machine, Sep 22, 2013
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    If he doesn't know anyone he probably be up for ANYBODY to be their friend, we all have been in that position before. I mean if you have a boyfriend, then why are you doing this... you are feeding your desires and could cause harm to your relationship
     
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    if he don't know anybody, maybe you can still invite him for group work?
     
    #3 Ticklish Fish, Sep 22, 2013
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    Don't think, just do. I have realized that the longer you wait to try to befriend someone you've seen for a while, the more awkward it can be and less likely it will happen.
     
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    I don't see any real reason not to approach/befriend him. And like you said, you have no desire to pursue him, his goods are just what made you notice him. We could all use another friend! :slight_smile:
     
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    Tread carefully, could get yourself into lots of situations here that could probably push some boundaries in the future if you aren't careful. Especially when you describe yourself as fascinated by someones incredible looks.

    Would you do the same thing if he didn't look this way? If the answer is no then I would say don't bother trying to be his friend.
     
    #6 robclem21, Sep 23, 2013
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    Good advice Rob. I'm a really shy guy and I've never gone out of my way to befriend somebody. He's cute enough that I could see myself being brave, even though my intentions are purely academic.

    Maybe I'll take the plunge and just say hello. A girl I met in university just walked up to me and said hello, we talked a little and I asked if there was any particular reason she had just come up and talked to me, she replied that I just looked particularly lonely. That was the start of every friendship I made that year. So maybe I can return that kind of friendliness towards someone I just happen to think is really good looking :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
    #7 penguin machine, Sep 23, 2013
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    Right. Happens all the time to me huhhu
     
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    Well I didn't talk to him and now he has a group. But I did meet a Bi lady, so that was nice!

    I still want to talk to him though. I almost said hello in the hallway. ><
     
    #9 penguin machine, Sep 23, 2013
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