Does anyone know why girls can be manly but men can't be girly?It seems very unfair!

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Because we live in a society that values masculinity over femininity. So when a woman is "manly", she's moving up on the social ladder, but when a man is "girly", he's moving down it.

 

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For Halloween I am actually planning on going as a gender stereotype... But the other way around, so instead of being super macho I plan on wearing heels and stuff. People at my school are kind of gender role freaks so I plan on shaking it up a bit.

 

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I am very girly (but i still have a somewhat deepvoice )
I am going to get this shame its fairly pricy
Attractive Pink Short Sleeves Black Lace Square Collar Cotton Sweet Lolita Dress - Lolitashow.com

Its sooooo cute ^-^

 

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^This^

Welcome to The Patriarchy where giving up Male Privilage is looked at as a form of treason.

 

Re: Does anyone know why girls can be manly but men can't be girly?It seems very unfa

Exactly what I was going to say. It's completely unfair to everyone involved. Even those who benefit from it miss out on a chance for personal growth through earning their status. Sad stuff.

 

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<status quo>
Masculinity equals strength. Women can be strong despite femininity, not because of it. So a masculine woman is independent, but a feminine man is a sissy.

It really sucks >.< But one day it'll be different.

 

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A lot of women are also criticized for being too masculine. For men, it's powerful, but if a woman does something similar, people often just think she's mean. Except that doing this perceived powerful action is the only way to move up because if a girl's feminine, she is more socially acceptable but also considered weaker.

Which is, of course, completely unfair.

 

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[Unfortunately] this is about as astute an explanation as there is. Welcome to the male-dominated society we live in.

 

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I dunno, I think "manly" girls get their fair share of abuse too. I remember one girl at school who people used to shout "man beast" and "shrek" at. Just like theres a lot of pressure on men to be "masculine" theres a lot of pressure on females to be feminine so I think its pretty equal.

 

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Oh, the good ol' double standards of society. Don't you love 'em? /sarcasm

Yeah, double standards are so annoying. :/

 

Re: Does anyone know why girls can be manly but men can't be girly?It seems very unfa

In Chinese, masculine is deciphered as strong, vice versa. Hmm, I guess that explains it in our culture. But what's worse is that an awful lot of people combine feminine men with gay. I'm gay and though I might be sensitive, my voice is deep, I'm not short, of weight, okay maybe skinny, but never considered by others as feminine. A friend of mine at school, boy, if feminine and a lot of people call him gay when he's not (while I am, though no one at school knows that)

 

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I think part of it is people are just afraid of new & different things... also maybe men feel pressure to be masculine so they turn around and pressure other men because if other men aren't being as masculine then it's like, why am I trying so hard? You know?

It's all so stupid though...

 

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There a ton of feminine boys/guys out there. The only reason why you feel that way is because you're listening to too many straight people putting this in your head. Stop that lol.

 

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I'm totally okay with the way it is now. When I think masculinity, I think, strong, confident, leader, and hairy. (lol)


I definitely don't see it as a bad thing. But if a dude wants to be a feminine, then that's cool too.

Yeah. To be honest it kinda annoys me when you see the stereotypical flamers and whatnot, since they're just satisfying the gay stereotype. >.>

 

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No, not all the stereotypical flamers are just trying to satisfy the gay stereotype. Sure, some are to please society, but not all. So please, don't say that every gay man that acts a certain way is doing so not because he feels this way, but because society tells him to. I know for a fact this is an inaccurate generalization.