Alright so to give you some sort of perspective, I have a crush on a guy in my grade, we aren't in the same social groups but we share enough classes to have some contact, and I have been crushing on him for more than a year. A while back I told a friend of mine who is my crush's friend, let's call my crush Jon. So my friend was a little surprised and would tease me a bit playfully every now and than about me fancying Jon... So after a while my friend told me that Jon might be bisexual, and I didn't quite react so well. You see I have a crush on Jon but I don't want to, because I know a guy like him would never go for me, regardless of gender. So when my friend told me that I got a little panicky because that means there could be a chance. So fast forward this year, I thought over the summer my crush had gone away, nope, just went into hibernation. So I noticed when I would look his way, we would make eye contact. Nothing that unusual right? Well he gives me this weird look, and he holds it for longer than most people do, now I am not saying it's anything, I think he's just looking around, and happens to stop. So a couple of days ago we were in class and I was sitting next to my friend. And he shows me some sheet music (we are in music class) and I exclaim that it looks really difficult, and Jon comes over. So I tried pretending to be involved with the music, while they were talking. And my friend says "Wow, just look at his eyes" So being the complete idiot I look up, and I look in Jon's eyes and after holding it for a while, I turn to my friend and say "I don't see anything wrong" and turn back to the music. My friend comments on how nice Jon's eyes are (side note they are). My friend decided to add in "Yeah (my name)'s eyes are cool too" So I can't really avoid his eye contact so I look up, and Jon looks in my eyes, but it didn't feel like he was looking in my eyes, I don't know maybe he just gives weird looks to people but I felt like he was not just looking, it's hard to explain but I know it cannot be in an emotional way... So he held the eye contact for quite some time, so I nervously said "Did I enter a staring contest by accident?" He didn't laugh, just kept looking. So I turned my look away, and told them this: "No one likes my eyes, people say they are weird, or creepy or unsettling" Which is true most people don't like them, and Jon goes "I don't see anything wrong with them" Not fair. So I avoid eye contact and just fall a bit harder. I wouldn't mind this all if it weren't a situation where it will only end in nothing, no happy ending, not even a chance. So today I was talking with a friend at lunch and she mentioned he is apparently weird. Which I'm fine with, but my friends tell me Jon is weird, like really weird but he seems fine. I know it could just be the rose colored glasses but still, I don't know. So I want to know, what on earth do I do?? Also is there any way to stop feeling for someone, quickly.
There is never too much advice that can be given in situations such as these because there isn't really a way to forget about someone who you are required to be around in the classroom, workplace, or otherwise. Though I have found that in most cases, it isn't the feelings of attractions that bring on emotional roller coasters, rather its simply the way we look at them. Largely, its a matter of confidence and intimidation. Every day, most of us interact with a nice handful of individuals in our lives. We are never really phased or intimidated speaking to a friend or random peer, despite the fact that they could all have romantic desires for us at any specific time. We only become shaken by nerves when we are faced with individuals who we, personally, find attractive. It becomes intimidating to us because we then begin to worth about whether they could possibly feel the same, are they out of our league, are we worthy?. We naturally trap ourselves in a mindset that receiving their affection is crucial. Its almost as though we fear that if this one individual doesn't desire us, we will forever be alone because no one ever will. The advice I would give is to try to break that mindset by improving your personal confidence. Him making eye contact is uncomfortable to you because you are afraid of what he will think about what he sees. At the end of the day, there will always be more fish in the sea. Look at yourself in the mirror; look at your face; look at your eyes; look at who you are and learn to love what you see. When you become completely comfortable with the various aspect of yourself, being attracted to others isn't as much of an dramatic experiences because you recognize that they aren't actually that significant. Some people will like you, others will think otherwise, but as long as you are comfortable with yourself, you will find yourself content either way.
I'm more worried he will like what he sees, and if that happens I don't know what I would do, I just want to know how to get rid of these emotions, or somehow get the situation to stop.