Close Straight Female friendships and Lesbians

I've always had some trouble pointing out with certainty what exactly the boundaries between female friendship and romance are. I swear there is so much leeway between the two. It's like a girl can hold hands and kiss and practically have her face in between another one's legs and people still term it as normal heterosexual "friendship". How exactly is that not confusing and misleading for us queer folk? How are we supposed to distinguish the girls who want us like that from the others?

Don't get me wrong I'm totally for self-expression but there is a downside, I think. Some times it's hard for me to really tell if a girl likes me or if she like-likes me. So the whole navigating through the romantic landscape can be impossible.

A lot of straight-identified girls nowadays still mention how "hot" some female celebrities are. I hear a lot that say girl on girl is "hot". What?

Besides plowing through the lesbian bar, which still has a lot of straight people in it, how are we supposed to find each other?

Sorry guys that was a bit of a rant...but I feel like this is really confusing...

thanks for lending me your ears for five minutes

 

That sucks.
Hang in there.
Honestly, I had a similar thing with my ex best friend (notice the ex part, that should tell you enough) she would always try to hold my hand...in bed we would embrace each other some times with our legs entertwinded...she'd send me questionable romantic letters....and even downright kiss me a few times.
When I finally told her directly that I was in love with her, although I thought it was obvious to tell, she gave me the whole "I'm straight. I'm into boys." lecture and I responded with "well, why do you act like that then? You don't think it's leading me on?"...she certainly didn't agree with that....I had to end the "friendship" aka weird girls in the closet type relationship....because she insisted that we stay "friends" and I was so heartbroken and said "what exactly is that supposed to mean at this rate?"...I mean honestly to me what it seemed like was that this was some type of a cover for what it really was which was romantic. The reason I say that is I cannot for the life of me picture myself holding, flirting and espacially kissing random people who I'm just "friends" with...let's say guys for example.

It really is confusing and I'm surprised this isn't talked about more in our community.
I hope things get better for you though and you find a girl you deserve.
Hugs

 

Ya. I mean, OK, I understand some times people make mistakes and some times they are just plain uninterested. But not even apologizing for pulling these moves and yanking on your heart strings full force? That's not OK.

I have been out for about 3 years or so. I still see this as an ongoing problem. I'm not even a teenager anymore, I'm in my early 20s for goodness sakes and girls still play these games! I think it's really unfair because now, for the sake of my own self-preservation of my feelings, I tend to assume that no matter what a girl does she isn't interested. I also tend to assume that a lot of straight girls are really just "straight" or raging closet cases. Heck, I remember how hard it was for me to come out...if it wasn't for this one person I'm sure I never would have...