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Is there ever a good time to confront your friend on their sexuality?

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  1. Dakine

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    Real short, just as the title says...is there ever a good time to bring up to a friend the possibility that they might not be straight? My friend is starting to do some weird things that directly involve me and he seems like one of those ppl that needs the "intervention" approach. Could this ever be good?
     
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    It really depends on what behaviour you're talking about. Generally, confronting someone about their sexuality isn't ever a good idea, and can honestly be quite crass. If your friend is hitting on you or others and you or they are uncomfortable, though, or similar things are happening, it wouldn't be unreasonable to ask him or her what's up. Confronting, though, might be too aggressive. It might be good to leave the ball in his or her court if or when you decide to do something.
     
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    Confronting someone in the closet isn't generally the best idea and could be taken as attacking them and make them become very defensive.. but it does depend on what the behavior is, and if it is making you feel uncomfortable, I would definitely address the situation, not in an intervention style, but maybe one on one type of calm and caring talk
     
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    It's not making me uncomfortable yet, but it's progressing that way. He's been lingering purposely in my area when I masturbate, he has taken a photo of me sleeping naked and now he is using one of my towels as his cleanup rag when he masturbates when he has plenty if his own material to use for cleanup. Keep in mind I have feelings for him so to be quite honest I don't mind....but it's bordering on weird now.
     
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    Does he know u r gay/bi?

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    And does he know that you know about the photo? I would as others advised caution against confronting someone in the closet or in denial but this pretty blatant behavior...and pretty violating if u ask me.
     
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    He knows I'm bi/gay, knows I like him and he showed me the photo and then a few days later sent it to me.
     
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    In that case, you could ask him; though, maybe you need to ask if he likes guys versus asking if he's gay/bi, which might be too charged labels for him.
     
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    Just ask him if something is bothering him and to be honest and that you won't tell anyone. If he's gay or bi, he's more likely to come out to you. If he's insists on saying that he's fine, then be patient and wait for him to come around.
     
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