My friend might be gay, feeling might be mutual

So, this all started last December. My best friend is a VERY affectionate guy, and he likes to cuddle, put his arms around, snuggle, even hold hands with male friends. When he first started doing this with me around Christmas last year, I shrugged it off as a possible brotherly feeling. But I could never get my mind off it. And he just got more affectionate. We would watch movies and he'd cuddle, or lay his head on me, and eventually I realized I wasn't confused by his actions, and it was actually flattering. So, basically our friendship got even more intimate, we shared a bed on a band trip to Annapolis and he cuddled with me, he hugs me a lot, compliments me a lot, says he loves me when we talk online or in real life, he makes "jokes" about us loving each other to my friends, has kissed me on the cheek many times, etc. Basically, I want to know if you guys think he likes me, and what I should do, because I am really starting to grow fond of it. I have asked a few friends their opinions on this, and the general consensus was that he at least likes males, if not only males, and some of them are convinced he likes me. Also, if it helps, we are freshman in high school, and we've known each other since 1st grade. I don't know what to do, because I never thought of liking him, and I have a girlfriend but I feel the same for both of them and its screwing me over, please help. Also, he seems to deny it when people, which has recently been his ex girlfriend who they had a weird relationship together, ask him if he is. Kinda feminine person. But I love him, I do.
P.S: No comments involving the condemning of my feelings for him or saying that I should forget it and forget him will be tolerated. I have read threads just like this before on this site and they got helpful answers. No need to discriminate me from that help. Unhelpful or hurtful comments will be removed.

-A Person

 

Thanks guys, the only reason I put that P.S was because I had this posted somewhere else and the only responses I got were VERY rude and unhelpful. Basically the people told me I was an asshole for liking him and all that. I do not plan on doing anything behind my gf's back. We talked about our relationship and we both agreed that if either of us feel uncomfortable or no longer want to be in the relationship that the other would not freak out, because we only want each other to be happy. So if we do end up separating, it won't get bloody so to say. Again, thanks for your answers, very appreciative and helped a lot more than the other website I tried.

 

Thanks guys, once again I'm sorry if I sounded kinda mean in the intro. I just had some bad experiences, I am not against different opinions. Recently, we had some marching band events where he cuddled with me for warmth, and he was holding my hand when i got upset on the way back the one day. Also,I can't remember if I already mentioned this, but he likes to glance/look at me during class or if we're on different sides of a room.

 

Anyone else viewing this, any responses would be appreciated.

 

Thanks again! I also wanted to throw in that for a while, since we both take French (same class actually) on Facebook we call each other "my love" in french or say I love you in french very often.

 

Hey, thanks for those responses! Wanted to add some more (I know its nuts) but we have a French trip to Quebec for 4 days in February. He said he wants to sit with me on the way there and back and share a room again and has said, "We're gonna cuddle all the time" to me. Is this good, bad, expected, interesting, opportunity providing? Or all 5?

 

BIG NEWS THOSE THAT ARE STILL READING. Here it is copied from a convo with a friend!

Well he said he's had crushes on guys before when we discussed sexuality since his ex-girlfriend (long story didn't go well) accused him of being gay. Quote "Yeah I've had crushes on guys. But i'm not 100% gay. Probably 80 20, 70 30". And when I said, "You have?" he looked at me and smiled and said "Yeah".
Also he was upset cuz his ex was being a dick and he had a bad day, so on the way back from todays football game (we're in the band) he was really sad and I put my arm around him for a while.
Also, we're going to a birthday party and he told me he'd only go if I did. So I'm taking this positively. And you?

 

Bad news everyone. I talked about it with him and he just said "I like you a lot, but not like that". So now that I've been reduced to a bawling fool, I'm lost. He apologized a lot and swore that nothing would change at all but I don't know anymore. I feel like he still feels something, but he outright told me he didn't. I guess the only thing to do now is just continue with it and hope maybe he'll think differently in the future. He also told me he still needs me a lot since him and our other friend are having problems...but I don't know. I just don't know. I'm probably going to be crying for weeks.

 

Thanks guys. We were actually talking over Facebook because we were initially talking about something else he was having problems with and somehow it came up. But he still said I love you a lot to me afterwards. And as I said he told me he didn't care about what I told him and promised he wouldn't ever change anything between us. I kept trying to say that I knew he'd feel uncomfortable and that I was stupid for saying anything but he said "Liking someone doesn't make you an awful person. I still love you and need you a lot right now. I wouldn't ever not want you because you're still a great friend". So I guess that's good but...yeah I died a bit on the inside.