I don't know how to ever tell if a girl is gay, or where to find one.

Just go to a gay bar. Im sure you wont have any trouble. You are reallyyy cute

 

Honestly, the dating pool is a lot tighter for us sapphic goddesses (my cool way of saying lesbians) than it is for the ladies who dig guys. It was not hard for me to get a guy's attention but getting a girl friend that you like...well that's the harder goal.

My suggestion for you would be to use dating sites and sites that are kind of gay-oriented. Also, go to a gay bar but then...I think that can be difficult with all the straight girls that go there....so maybe it might be better to find some lgbt space.

To be honest...I'm still struggling to find that special woman :\

Hang in there!

 

You should look what the LGBTQ community has to offer in your area. Most of the time you can probably find support groups, GSA's, and even probably some centers. As for telling if a girl is gay I wouldn't be able to tell you since I can never really tell myself. I guess you can just pay attention to body language and eye contact and go from there. Oh and pocketrush is right you are cute.

 

Haha yeah I think what most people want is a gaydar; I know I want one. Google is your best bet for right now and you can go to your colleges website to search up LGBT related clubs. Don't worry there will be a time when you get to be fully out and proud. It takes time and can be a very scary process but at least you know that you are not alone. People here on EC are very helpful and friendly so whatever advice you need just know that there will always be at least one of us on here more than willing to offer some words of advice and encouragement.

 

Commenting on the "you're just adorable" comment

Funny, I was thinking the same but about you when I was answering the question

 

have you tried twitter? connect with some random LGBT and find local friends through them. thats how I met my girlfriend

 

It may sound stupid, but try online dating. A year ago I was in the same boat as you. I decided to write an 'about-me' on the website of a gay magazine that had a dating-section on the site (it was free by the way). You couldn't post pictures but I was looking for someone with whom I would mentally click. And I have gotten so many reactions that I didn't know what to do! After a week of mailing girls there was one girl that I found very interesting and we shared photos, facebookprofiles and phone numbers. That's when I found out she looked very cute! We met up, and now we've been dating for a year. It was a Dutch website, but I'm 100% sure that there are English versions available. Just be careful on those websites! There are of course always people with ill intentions.

I am going to uni and I have searched for gay-friendly students' unions. Now I've joined one and I've met a lot of gay people. That's also a great option!

Good luck, it sucks because dating guys is so much easier. I've been asked out by many guys along the road. I wish us lesbians/bisexuals could distinguish each other flawlessly, no matter what that would make things a lot easier.

 

I'm in the same boat looking for a girlfriend but can't find one