May be a little graphic...you've been warned. So.... I've just tested myself. After nearly 3 1/2months of not using porn I just used it for the first time tonight. I got off to lesbians in about 30secs. Straight porn had moments but nothing really for me. Same with real life straight sex but I still like pentration and intimacy with a guy. And I am inexperienced and terrified of hooking up with a girl although the thought does turn me on, I just coyld not bring myself to act on it. So..... would *hypothetically* is it possible to have a relationship with a guy? There is a guy I really like, but I can't reach orgasm with him, but I think that's because I was constantly worrying about being a lesbian when I was with him and not focusing on what was going on. Now that I know, I maybe able to enjoy it, ironically. But yeah, if we had an open relationship, because I love being with him emotionally, it feels instinctively right to be in his arms and I love kissing him and I love giving him pleasure, but I think I need a woman to get me off, sexually, if I had a bf, I think I would be more comfortable getting physical with another woman too casually (also ironically). I'd like to be his first, and he mine, and anyone else comes after. I'm definitely not ready for a lesbian relationship. P.S. he has doubts about his sexuality too...we could have a lavender marriage....right?
If you don't want a sexual relationship with a man what is to stop you just being close friends with this guy and not worrying about having to suffer through a sex act you (and possibly he) doesn't want?
Just my personal opinion, but I think pron doesn't really indicate anything about anyone. If you look at porn addiction, you'll see that people go through all different kinks and phases of things that turn them on in their head, but probably wouldn't in reality. I also don't think that sexual activity between a couple shouldn't be an entirely physical act - which is all porn really is. There's a massive psychological component to it too. I've failed to get hard with a girl on a couple of occasion, mainly because something was bothering me, and I didn't feel comfortable. At other times, my partner has made me hard with just her smile. Everyone is different, and I believe unique. But I really do think we can agree that being worried about something is a sure fire way of putting the dampeners on anyone's blazing passions. I'm not saying you wouldn't prefer sexual contact with another woman. I am saying that being worried will probably prevent a lot of people from a trip to heaven. Figuratively speaking. Take your time, and do your best not to worry about it. These things are very complex and you can't expect yourself to have all the answers right away. It's a journey.
