How do you guys cope with homophobic parents?

thanks for the share


-ghemesh

 

Please don't feel you have to be grateful they didn't disown you. You have done nothing wrong. You shared very personal information with them because you respect them and want their acceptance. You are their child, you deserve their love and compassion.

It seems that for right now they are refusing to accept your sexuality, but you can't allow that to affect you. Things can always change though.

What you need to remember is that their ignorance is their problem, so don't carry that burden for them. As long as you are okay with yourself that's all that matters. Be happy and proud. Don't ever hold back who you are to appease the insecurities of others.

 

My parents don't know that i'm bisexual but sometimes i try to ignore it their homophobic comments it's easier said than done .

 

I know the feeling. I'm bi and both my siblings know. I think my dad suspects it but my mom certainly has no idea. They make homophobic comments sometimes and it really sucks, but I suppose I can't really say too much about how it hurts though because I'm not out.
Still, I'm proud of who I am. Just because I like dudes AND chicks doesn't make me a bad person. I'm happy to be who I am. I know eventually my parents will accept it when I come out. The best you can do is hope that one day they'll see that's who you are. I'm sure they love you just the same. ^^

 

Something that helped me with my parents Homophobia was a little, tiny book called "The Four Agreements". One of the four agreements is "don't take anything personally." Once I fully internalized this agreement, I stopped seeking their approval and trying to change them. I just loved them, and any unwelcome comments or attitudes I chalked up to either their ignorance or need for work in that area. I am more peaceful now, and they notice the change and have responded very positively. But even if they hadn't, I was and am resolved to not take it personally.