Thinking of dumping my boyfriend, am I being selfish ?

Oh dear...I thought your relationship was one of the better ones I've heard of in these parts!

*despairing over shattered illusions*

Of course you can't tolerate this state of affairs, not fair to you, and ultimately detrimental to him as well.

Sorry about that! (*hug*)

 

I don't think that would be selfish at all, honestly.

(Time for some bluntness.)

Doing everything for someone, unless it's something you like doing (which doesn't appear to be the case), isn't very fun. It ends up being more like a parent/child relationship than anything else, because (besides the sex) that's basically what it's like. You drive him everywhere, you pay for everything, all while he sits there and does nothing.

He sounds more like a free loader than anything.

And, if you know he uses you for sex 90% of the time, that's not right. It sounds like he's only using you for things that he doesn't want to work for.

If he isn't going to put effort into his life, why should you put effort into staying with him?

That's how I see it.

Everyone deserves someone who makes their lives better, and he doesn't sound like that kind of person.

 

Well, you said that you wanted a family, correct?

I think that if you don't even know if you could handle living with him all the time, then he wouldn't really be the best choice for someone to have a family with. And, if that is your goal/wish, to have a family, you need someone who would be able to help take care of said family, not someone who would sit around doing nothing all day long while you go out and make the money and whatnot.

It doesn't seem fair to you at all and, in my opinion, sounds like a one sided relationship.

 

Please, dump him.

I've been on his side, and the sooner the reality check, the better. Missed oportunities were my wake-up call.

 

You deserve better.

 

What happened last month?

More specifically, was he behaving this way all this time and it only finely got to you in the last month? Or was he behaving differently up until about a month ago and then his behavior suddenly changed to it's current state?

If the latter, any idea what triggered the change in behavior?

Todd

 

He's the one being selfish here, dump him!