Can "Is he gay/straight?" be answered this simply? (best friend dilemma)

Porns not the be all and end all however it should give a good inclination as to what he's into sexually which unfortunately doesn't seem in your favour. I know you must really like him but instead of going through his web browser (which is a bit clingy and obsessive without being rude) you should talk to him. I know you probably think you will lose him and in your position id rather keep it a secret but ultimately you're homosexual and you're going to have to tell that to him one day so i would probably try and tell him you're gay- or at least curious if you want to find out his feelings on the matter before scoping his reaction and telling him you like him, all the best! Sorry if I came across mean! I've been in this position but wouldn't dream of invading his privacy even with a free pass!

 

I don't know... I used to feel the same about my friend, I think it's easy to do because you're closeted and not in close contact with a lot of gay guys, so you go with someone you're close to; it's bound to happen. The best way that got me through it was; if it became readily available to you would you actually want it would you want to be a couple with him or do you just care about him a lot so want to take the friendship to a closer level? A good thing that helped me was thinking of greed and how you can want more and more but if nothing's enough then you will never be content.
I know it's hard and please believe me because I've been there, but things do get better, I'm friends with my best friend still but some things aren't meant to be, you can't change someone's sexual orientation, honestly my best advice is relax, don't think about anything. Just go with the flow completely, let it go and enjoy your friendship for now.
If you do really want to pursue this though just come out to him about all things with you, don't bring feelings for him into it (although some things may be transparent) and just start there, if he's into you he will more than likely say something at that point to you as you will have broken down any barriers he felt. With this I would say to hope for the best but expect the worst!

 

I don't think you should be snooping his browser, unless you did so accidentally or to pull up a site you hadn't bookmarked. But, no big deal.

A friend of mine, who probably wouldn't meet some of the more prickly people's approval because of his candor and sarcasm, came up with the term "CS." It means "cross suspect," meaning two people, probably GLBQ, suspect each other's GLBQ status. This sounds like a case of "CS."

Do you like this friend? Is he a good friend? If so, it doesn't matter. That is, unless you have a vested interest, meaning you want to do something with that person. Guess what? The friendship may or may not survive that escapade. Let things unfold. What's on his computer may or may not be indicative. Other things, such as dialogue and double entendre, might be.

 

Well, to be frank, he might be something other then straight. My boyfriend, for example, was "Straight" before meeting me, and has since come out as bisexual...The key issue is, is that most people consider themselves straight by default, and that's who they want to be.

If you like him though, and you're very, very close, talk to him about it. If he's ever said he's okay with gay people -- he's going to be okay with you revealing your sexuality (whatever it is) to him, and defining your relationship by asking where he wants to go with it.

Try it. Best of luck.

 

Some guys who are well versed in "maintaining their cover" will purchase adult magazines, movies, make sure to plant explicit comments about presumably good looking females in the right circumstances- just because you found A history file of A browser on possibly ONE of the computers he has access to doesn't mean you have his whole story (for example most browsers have a "private browsing" function).

At the risk of repeating, coming out and revealing a crush in the same conversation is probably not a good idea.

 

Just make sure you're not hasty... You wouldn't want to freak hm out... If he IS straight you wouldn't want to come on to him cause that might make him... whatever.. Just make sure don't take any big risks since you're so close.. Please keep us updated

 

its hard to tell if someone is in the closet but I feet you need to ask him his opinion on same sex's going out and see what he says