Hi everyone, just found this forum and was hoping for a little advice or some kinda helpful info... I am a gay boy, out, just started dating another boy a while ago. We haven't "gone all the way" yet but have done some making out, cuddling, frotting, rubbing and stuff like that. We really like each other and being together a lot. There's just one little problem I have when we're getting intimate. I happen to be extremely ticklish all over! Like really bad. And my sensitivity seems to amp up to 11 when I'm really turned on. When my boyfriend tries kissing my neck or running his hands over my midsection or my thighs I can't help but melt into a puddle of giggles. At first he thought it was cute but it's becoming something of a nuisance now. It's not that I mind the feeling (actually I kind of enjoy it) but it puts something of a damper on the sexiness if I turn into a squirming, giggling mess at the slightest touch. Has anyone else had this problem and what did you do about it? Thanks for your input!
I haven't had the problem, but I think it's going to be a matter of will power to just let your body accept being touched without being shy Try touching your bf back a lot and thinking non-tickly thoughts I guess...
Try changing your approach in the bedroom. Make love, not porn. You don't need to stick to sultry glances and overdone moaning. You can giggle and laugh and be sweet and have, you know, FUN? Sometimes the best moments you share sexually are moments that are out of place, spontaneous, and powerful. If you can't laugh in the bedroom, I would think your sexual interaction is lacking some familiarity. It's not a performance, you're bloody naked, thrusting your penises at each other and rolling around making silly faces. Some parts of your body aren't ever going to behave the way you want them to. ON THE OTHER HAND, you could just tell him not to titillate those places that are ticklish. Communicate man, tell him what feels good and let him know what he can do to make you feel good. It's not a performance, it's a shared experience. So both of you should contribute about what you want and what feels good. Just because he tends to do certain things, doesn't mean he has to. When my boyfriend doesn't like certain areas touched because they're too ticklish, I don't just do it because I like it, I find somewhere that DOES feel good and touch him there.
I appreciate your comments but the problem is a little more complicated than that. We do like just having fun, being playful and we are comfortable with each other and communicative about what we want. The thing is my body from the neck down is basically one giant ticklish spot! I certainly don't want to tell him he can't kiss my neck or touch my chest, waist, thighs and so on. I want him to do whatever comes naturally and enjoy it all without getting all squirmy and breaking out into laughing fits every time! I mean it's fun for a while but it's a real pain to be too ticklish for almost any intimate contact. Know what I mean?
Maybe, give him a break from doing all the touching, and take a turn touching him for a while Other than that, I think it'll just be will power, and accepting the small amount of giggling....
YES. Also, what the hell's wrong with giggling and smiling when you're both doing that anyway (most likely). I think if I were your boyfriend I'd be encouraged by ticklishness, and laughs and smiles. I mean really, it doesn't have to be all mature and composed and....pornlike. If it's to the point where it's mentally/physically unbearable then tell him, and try doing what he does back. Incidentally I'm jealous that you guys are so close you can just be so...easy with eachother. I want a relationship like that :lol:
Maybe firmer touches would help? I got a massage the other day and had a ticklish problem and firmer pressure changed the sensation and I stopped twitching.
