I'm really downright now...

Hey sassyspectre, welcome to EC!

I know it feels as if you will never find anyone like him again, someone with whom you were so comfortable; but consider that this may be a good thing. This guy did leave you after all...would you want someone like that again?

I know I'm making light of a sad situation, so don't get me wrong, I feel for you; it's hard to let go. But until you do let go, it will be almost impossible to find someone new, you simply won't have room in your heart for two...in a sense, making yourself available means letting go of your feelings for him. It means distancing yourself from the situation a bit and resolving not to think of him for at least a little while...This may take a little more time, you need to grieve a little more, but once you accept what appears to be unacceptable, trust me, there are other good guys out there for you!

 

I have been going through something similar. I just got out of a long term relationship a few months ago and at least twice a day I think and hope to start the relationship up again. I was told that he loved me but couldn't be in a relationship with me at the time. Lately I think about our relationship and realize all that I gave and that little I got back in return. If you take a step back I am sure that you can see the faults that made the relationship not wok. You basically have the option to build your self from it and wallow in it. And trust me when I say that wallowing will just make you sadder

You are here for a reason and sometimes a lone adventure can breed new insight.

 

No one moved on, we are just getting used to the pain. I hope soon you will get used to it, been there and I really admit that it's painful and hard. But as weeks goes by, you will get better, hopefully