Parent don't approve of homosexuality

Hey there

Um...Why would you want to fake your own dead?

 

Approval and acceptance are two different things.

Acceptance isn't an option, while approval is.

I don't approve of random acts of violence. But I must accept that such things exist.

 

Faking your own death may be a bit drastic. Why don't you instead tell them that your gay and if they don't take it well then try giving them some space for a while, (I know I'm not much help) but I've heard that people can become accepting of homosexuality if their children are GLBT. It could just be that they have a skewed/ inaccurate image of what homosexuality is. But obviously don't do anything if it puts you in certain danger. Who knows your parents might be happy for you

 

You know what would be worse than their disappointment? Their grief and anxiety over thinking their own child might be dead. Don't do this to them. If you come out to them and they show support for you then you'll be questioning why you ever thought this was a good idea! You need to tell them at some point and you will have to point out to them that this wasn't your choice, it's the way you were made, and add that you still need them in your life (you do, you're technically still a minor).

Most importantly, do not fake your own death. That is much too extreme, and even if you are their "perfect child" I think you can live a normal life with them if you do the right thing. You're valuable to your family.

 

In addition to what Chip said, not only is doing this very straining on the mind, it's incredibly hard to pull off, and I'm pretty sure it's illegal. The US government does something similar in order to help people who are threatened by criminals with the Witness Protection Program, but they wouldn't do such a thing just to make life as a gay person easier.

I think you're planning way over the top of this problem. If you are worried that your parents will kick you out/cut you off if they find out, it's best to wait to tell them until you have other means of living. But barring that extreme bad reaction, you are better off just telling them. Whether they like it or not, you are still their kid, and they will deal.

 

I would have to imagine that your parents would much rather have their healthy, alive and loving gay son around then their straight son dead. I really agree with some of the other comments here. That over time your parents will accept and love you as their son. They may initially react harshly, even be somewhat distant from you, as they themselves absorb and try to underhand your sexuality.

However, at the end of the day, your their son, your the same son they loved since birth. And they will continue to love the boy they brought into the world and some day even perhaps accept and love their son's husband when your lucky enough to marry the man of your dreams.