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Can closeted (bi/gay) guys be as touchy feely as straight guys?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by unknownjourney, Dec 26, 2013.

  1. unknownjourney

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    As you all know , straight guys can be very touchy feely... probably more than gay people. So Can closeted gay/bi guys be as touchy feely as this? like as in so natural for them to do it ? very 'bromance' type of thing? I was just wondering..
     
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    Yes. Being in the closet can go from completely "straight acting" to someone who fits all the stereotypes except the label. I think a lot of it has to do with their personality (I don't like touching in general) and sometimes how comfortable they feel.
     
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    My experience doesn't match yours, and I don't think you can generalize.

    I know lots of straight guys who are very "huggy", but I know many gay guys, including some when they were closeted, who are also very "huggy." I don't think you can make any inference on sexual orientation based on that.
     
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    Paradoxally, even though I consciously avoided those situations in the past, I tend to now be somewhat more "huggy" with my close guy friends than before I came out to them (and btw I'd say it's 50-50 as to who initiates the hug). So, it's possible that other people while in the closet will limit their physical contact with others, because they may think, as I did, that it would give away their big secret. There's a lot of "natural" stuff that gets held back/adjusted when you're trying to hide your orientation.