So I'm thinking of asking this guy out tommorrow. I'm living at home not out but he is and my parents know he is. Assuming he says yes to fwb or relationship how have you guys had these relationships in a family environment before? Did your family work it out? Should I just tell them beforehand? I would be worried about telling them because if they rejected me we couldn't have anything close to a normal relationship cus I would feel awkward in public (don't know how his rents would take it). Mum already said we seem "really close". Should I hide it or just tell them?
Though I do live with my brothers, I've never had a relationship (that might be part of the reason that's stopped me?). That is certainly a difficult position to be in. If you are ready to come out to your family, now is a good a time as any. They are going to know eventually (right?), so this new "relationship" might be a good place to start it out. Just make sure it's something you are comfortable and ready to do, no one can tell you when the right time is but yourself. Though if you have serious reservations about it, obviously you can be nervous about but if your really afraid and questioning if you should, I don't think coming out "for a guy" (as it sort of is) is a good idea. I do believe there is more merit is telling them than hiding it. It will show them you are proud and sure of yourself and also that you respect them and want their acceptance. If you hide it chances are your parents will figure it out of their own, (we may like to think our parents aren't smart at times, but they can be extremely cluey when it comes to their children) which may not be such a shock for them. (But could show distrust towards them?) If you can't decide the only other thing I'd suggest you take things one step at time. Maybe start out with this friend to see how it goes, as you become closer you may become more ready and willing to come out. Also, if your friend is openly gay there is a good chance your parents already suspect (depending on your relationship history and interactions with others). The "Really close" comment could have been fishing. (Just a thought, think there is anything to that?) Last note. (I don't mean to pressure you or anything like that, only when you are ready!) I wouldn't be afraid of what your parents reaction will be, sure things may be awkward/uncomfortable for awhile, but 99% of parents are nothing but loving and accepting (if not right away once they've had time to accept it). Typically we hear the stories of the few who have fallings out with family or bad histories, not the many who have great family lives after coming out. Sorry I can't be of more help, all the best with whatever you decide.
