A little bit of a pickle

""you are straight as a rainbow"

I can't be the only person who reads this and thinks either he just called you and him gay or he has never seen a rainbow before...

" is this some bizzare religious hate crime gay baiting? (i see him reading the bible)"

Just remember that just because he's read a bible, doesn't mean he's about to commit a hate crime...

What exactly do you want to happen out of this, because I'm guessing even if he IS secretly gay, you're not going to turn around and date him.

 

If you're not sure if you're being bullied, then you're not...or at least he isn't a very effective bully.

If he's saying things like "I want you to put it in my butt", he's either dropping the least subtle hints in the world, or he's trying to get you to turn round and profess your love for him so he can take the piss, is that basically your theory? Honestly, I wouldn't know where to put my money. If he IS just trying to bully you then he must have something wrong with him 'cause even I can set someone up for a take-down better than that. If he IS gay, he's probably heavily overcompensating. Either way he seems like he's trying to get you to admit that YOU are gay, why not ask him straight up next time you catch him doing something vaguely flirty with you, then ask him. If he says he isn't tell him to stop doing it.

 

Because people are weird like that...well, whether he's secretly gay or not, he sounds like a bit of an ass.

 

I'd call him out on it personally...I mean there is always the chance he actually ISN'T trying to be a dick...doesn't mean you have to admit anything to him but if you catch him looking at your butt again, ask him why he's doing it and if he says he's straight tell him to stop...

 

If it were me, I wouldn't reveal shit about your sexuality or how you feel towards him. I think if he were a closet case, he wouldn't be so forward with you (i.e. saying "I want you to put it in my butt).

I had a similar experience last year with a guy I met through mutual friends. He became really touchy really quickly, and I thought it was really strange. I wondered if he was gay.

The touching you guys have had is more questionable, but in my case, it meant nothing. We texted sometimes and hung out one time just the two of us, and there was never anything about the conversations/hang out that made me think he was gay. In fact, I thought the opposite afterwards.

 

Based off what you said, yes.

 

I agree.

 

I'm not so sure he's 100% straight. It seems to me he is a bit confused and acting out in a playful, safe way, his homosexual feelings. He may well have picked up on the fact you're gay from his baby gaydar.

Either way, he does sound like he's not really a good bet for pursuing at the moment, even if he is cute!

BTW, I'd be careful what you say about churches. There are many Christians and Churches that aren't homophobic. Also, not all evangelicals are necessarily homophobic. Just saying - be careful.

 

After reading everything posted above, it is possible that he might be curious about who he is and is flirting with you to see what kind of a response he can get out of you. If I were you I would just ignore him and try to get over the crush you have on him. Is it possible. That the reason you have a crush on him is because he was flirting with you and it makes you feel good about yourself? No one should make you feel bad about being who you are.

 

Seconded. No one perfectly straight, not even "crusading Christian" types, are as fixated on homosexuality as this guy you've described. My guess is that he's well on his way to becoming a future gloryhole star. He's in the denial stage, so I wouldn't expect anything positive to result from your coming out to him. Maybe after a broken marriage or two, maybe some other kind of disgrace, he'll finally come out to himself. Pass, is my recommendation.