most gay guys i meet do not think i have the ability to love due to my disability How do i show i am the same person but my wheels happen to act like legs for me
Off the top of my head, the first thing that comes to mind is some sort of fairly direct flirting that disguises some education. I'm basically reminded of an article I read some years ago about a guy who used a motorized wheelchair. The interviewer talked about how this guy drove along at a speed that forced the interview to jog to keep up with them, at one point yelling back 'If you were disabled, we'd be there by now!'. Meaning in a chair like the guy was so they could both move along at speed. Assuming you can get an erection/ejaculate just like anyone else, perhaps flirt with guys around a theme of your sexual prowess? Without literally saying you can get an erection/ejaculate just as they can, perhaps still get that point across? Alternatively, if you can't get an erection/ejaculate in the 'conventional' manner but still get sexual pleasure, then perhaps adjust the flirting to indicate that being with you would be a different experience, but still a lot of fun, maybe even better than what they're used to? Finally, perhaps come at the issue in a more roundabout fashion, getting involved in activities that highlight your other good qualities, both physical and mental, such that guys get to know you and like you enough that they are interested in getting to know you sexually as well? Just some thoughts. Hope at least some of them are helpful. Todd
I'm willing to be that this is something straight people in wheelchairs also face. You might want to see what resources are available for them and make modifications for sexuality as needed.
