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How to talk to a guy you have a crush on?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by TheSoleOne, Jan 23, 2014.

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  1. TheSoleOne

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    Hey guys,

    So I posted a few months back about a boy, named Zach who I have a crush on. Anyways for you that didn't read he is masculine/twinkish, 16 year old junior in high school. I'm on the other hand am 15 years old & a sophomore in high school. Anyways I met him about 8 months ago when we were in the same Soccer class. He is on the Varsity Team & I am on the Junior Varsity team.

    Anyways him & I haven't spoken to each other in a few months (the last time was when we were working on something with his friend). I only see him at Before 1st period, during lunch, after lunch, before 6th period, and he's in my last period class. If he weren't so busy with his friends all the time I could talk to him. In Lunch he's always with his friends, after Lunch he walks with another of his friend & in 7th period he only talks to one friend of his.

    Why am I interested in this guy? Well, he's very funny & a great charmer. Every day I try to see him as much as possible, I dress up good just for him & can't stop thinking about him. He's the only motivation for me going to school. I always think to myself I will talk to him today, but never get a chance to talk to him 1 on 1 time. Furthermore, everyday I see him I stare at him (isn't obvious), but he's caught me before & he's smiled. But I figured maybe he's trying to be friendly. He always cracks jokes to my friend (that I sit by in my last period) and I laugh at them. I've caught him staring at me a couple of times in 7th period and I look back (and he quickly looks away), but that may mean nothing.

    I friended him on facebook, but sadly he doesn't use facebook anymore. Anyways, is there anything I can do to talk to him or maybe try to talk to him? And if I do end up talking to him, what can I say?

    Thanks for all the help! Hope to hear from you guys soon!

    ---------- Post added 23rd Jan 2014 at 05:40 PM ----------

    Also tips on getting his number?? Im not out at all. Sadly.
     
    #1 TheSoleOne, Jan 23, 2014
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    It would be far easier for you if you were out. If you two aren't terribly close, I don't think he'd be offended by learning that you're bisexual from someone else, and if he's some shade of queer, he may do the pursuing.
     
    #2 Saint Otaku, Jan 23, 2014
  3. TheSoleOne

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    But from someone else? How if no one knows? Should i tell him myself or...?
     
    #3 TheSoleOne, Jan 23, 2014
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    Well, if you wanted to tell him yourself, I would personally suggest trying to let it come up organically in the conversation, sort of in passing, like it's no big deal. People tend to feed off the way you present information in a conversation, so if you mention it casually, more as a footnote, he probably won't react quite as strongly as he might.

    Also, I'd just sort of suggest trying to go up and jump right into a conversation. Being a shy guy, I know how hard it can be, but a simple "what's up" can go a long way.
     
    #4 Wat, Jan 23, 2014
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    You need to be on speaking terms with him, which means you need to find out what he's doing and then keep bringing those things up to show you remember him. Since you have something in common, soccer, you could discuss some soccer game, maybe the upcoming World Cup. Better yet if you can get him alone (e.g. asking for one-on-one soccer training), but I'm not sure how reasonable that is, haha!
     
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    Hmmm.
    Trying to get some 1-1 time with him would be great. Maybe just ask him to come kick a ball around or something :slight_smile:
     
    #6 WhiteShadows, Jan 23, 2014
  7. TheSoleOne

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    Hmm I like the idea of the world cup, & I'll see what I can do. Thanks for all the suggestions :slight_smile: ill keep uou guys up to date :slight_smile:
     
    #7 TheSoleOne, Jan 24, 2014
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    Snap his phone or pc for awhile and try to look for gay porn history on the web.
    Then explicitly hit on him.
    Gosh i wanted to try this so bad but never got the chance
     
    #8 randomfactor, Jan 9, 2015
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    I'm going to give you advice on how to instantly improve your relationship with someone and in theory get you closer to dating them.

    Handshakes.

    Not just the regular "how do you do" or whatever but go all out. Create secret handshakes with people, give fist bumps, high fives, etc. this will improve your friendship immensely if you do it whenever you see him

    Idk if this works for like dating and **** because all the girls I like that I've done this with have boyfriends and besides that I'm not really trying to use it to try and "win them over" or anything but it will greatly improve your friendship

    Trust me
     
    #9 warholwendy, Jan 9, 2015
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