I have been wondering about something that happened with my friend on New Year. We went on a hike that day and at first I didn't think much of it. But a few days later I was laying in bed early in the morning thinking and it occurred to me he reacted very unusually and strongly to something I said. We both enjoy East Asian movies and I mentioned a film called A Frozen Flower, which is a love story between two men. In summarizing the plot I casually mentioned that aspect of the film. His mood completely changed, he became somber and withdrawn the whole remainder of the hike. I mentioned how the male on male sex scenes were briefer and less graphic than the heterosexual sex scenes and he responded "yeah because no one wants to see gay porn!", which I thought was a naive and odd statement. Obviously some people watch gay porn or it wouldn't exist. I was in no way making a huge deal about the homosexuality in this movie but that was clearly all he could think about and it filled his mind with all kinds of disturbing imagery. As I said, his mood changed from upbeat to depressed, all over me mentioning this movie. I was in no way hitting him at all and I am also not out to him. I have no idea why this so deeply upset him. Later for no reason he said "I'm not gay, I LOVE women". I was in no way implying he was gay. I have no idea why just mentioning this movie caused him to react so strongly.
His discomfort may be a sign that he has some same-sex attractions, but he could be straight and just have had other people suspect him, hence him being defensive. Maybe you could ask him what's so bad about being gay...
