drunk sex with friend

you will have to be very delicate with the situation.
becuase (I don't want to point blame) you sorta took advantage of him, but he definitely needs to know.
I would start off by asking him if he remembers anything at all. I'm not keen on the details as to who penetrated who, but if he penetrated you, ask if he had any "callers" over or maybe his gf after you dropped him off.
but again delicate is the key word here!

 

I'd agree with Plenilune.

I'll add, though, that I think that he remembers. That's not exactly some shit you just forget. There have been times that I have been totally smashed, yet I can still recall those nights. There was one time that I was so hammered that I was probably one drink away from having to go to a hospital. I passed out on the ground outside of my buddy's house only waking up to puke. Yet, I still remember that night pretty well, and that was 14 years ago.

 

maybe, he's hiding his homosexuality, afraid of it?
maybe he does remember like Tectonic says, and is brushing under the rug, to lock away?
I'm not a gay male... so i can only offer observances =/ I am sorry

 

I'd have to agree with Plenilune again.

He probably is just feeling the exact way you are right now. Nervous and scared. Probably thinks that it will be awkward to mention it.

 

If he's acting like nothing happenned and doesn't talk about it then I highly recommend you don't touch the subject unless you want to start a loooong journey of feelings between you and him.

Does he know you're gay? Do you actually want to stay friends? There're a lot of factors that could be playing here...

Best of wishes and good luck

 

Hey... there I might be to strict but here goes nothing and don't take my words for bad... just an opinion

1, Real friends never take an advantage of friends... if its the first time... he might forgive you.
2, I don't think he's straight after all.... I mean if he had sex with you... he could be gay, cuz then that would mean me being drunk and... having sex with a girl... if u catch my drift.

To me if I was straight... I don't think I would have sex with another guy... cuz no matter what u do when you're drunk you do realise what your doing. Its up to you what you do next. All the best luck bud.

 

This. Exactly.


I've had my share of drunken stupors, and there have been pieces of my nights that have gone missing from memory, but never any parts where I made a conscious decision to do something.

If you're a guy and make a conscious decision to have sex with another guy (topping no less), then you won't forget it.

 

From my perspective, I feel that the dude was using you. The way you word it makes it seem like he wanted to have sex with you, so he brought you (only you?). And for the first time, he got quite drunk. I'm sure he has heard stories like this.

If he was stable enough to have sex, especially being the top, then he was at least somewhat conscious of his actions.

I understand why you'd consider it rape, but I'm positive it was the drunk guy leading it on. Not to mention, in sex it is usually the one who is receiving has the most consent, unless the top is like strapped down aha.

 

I'm glad that worked out. :lol:

I would be more concerned about the friend getting labeled a rapist. Drunk or not, he is 21 and BrokenBoy is 17.

 

I mean, let's be real here. There's tons of us who have slept with someone we weren't supposed to. As the adult, you know better. As the child, you're attracted to grown ass men. Two wrongs don't make a right. In my state, someone 16 can give consent for sex.. so it's really coming down to how ya feel about all that jazz. The topic at hand is what he's asking about.. and when it comes to that, I would say that the odds are that he knows already. And that going into depth about it can make things pretty weird. If you don't have an intention to do it again, just let it go.. if you want to do it again, and want to make sure that it's a mutual experience, then you should have the conversation with the guy. In the grand scheme of things, dating someone 4 years younger than you isn't a big friggin' deal. 21/17 isn't bad to me if it's just sex. I do agree that psychologically, it often isn't in the best interest of the teenager. 21 year olds are legal adults, but very much children most of the time any way.

 

Welcome to the Unrequited Lovers Club. Lol. He has all the power in whatever you think you want to pursue... so why bother? I think you have to move on. I've been here more times than I care to share. Start seeking out gay men. Where you're sure they're gay, and emotions can be reciprocated. If he ever wants to come around, he'll know where to find you.

 

IMO, he's gay or bi and just rushed into a relationship with a girl to try to cover up that fact. But even if I'm correct, I still think you should just let it go. If he is gay or bi, then he obviously doesn't want to be labeled as such right now and telling him that you have feelings for him probably won't go over so well.