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Is my boyfriend, father of my children bisexual?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by MommyOfTwo, Feb 18, 2014.

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Do you think he's Bisexual?

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  2. Of course Not!

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  3. Maybe, Maybe Not..

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  1. MommyOfTwo

    MommyOfTwo
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    Okay, so where do I start? Well I've been with my boyfriend off and on for the past 3 years almost. We've just moved in together, and we have a 2 year old. I've been doing some research on this kind of thing for a while now, but I feel like I need more answers..
    So my boyfriend seems to like anal sex (well giving it anyways..) As for me, he is the only person I have had anal sex with. He says that he has never done any form of anal before me (giving or receiving), but the problem is however, since the first time we've attemped anal, he does it VERY well. Almost as if he's experienced in tht department already.. okay, so let me elaborate a little..
    While in the act, he seems to know exactly what he's doing.. every spot, every position, every stroke, every lick. (Excuse my graphics) Also, anal seems to be more intense (better words maybe passionate, enjoyable, desirable) for him..
    Every now and then, he likes to inform me on things I've never known about the anus and things it can do while in the act of anal intercourse.
    Question 1: could he be lying about never doing anal, or is it normal to be experienced in something you've never done before?

    Other things that lead me to believe he maybe bisexual.. he's always asking me about gay men and how they operate. I mean, I am a bisexual woman myself but what would I possibly know about gay men?
    Umm, brokeback mountain, gay and anal porn, homophobia.. (jus to name some topics that have been brought up)
    Question 2: Is he secretly trying to come out to me?

    Lastly, research has been telling me that men who are bisexual tend to come out after they're completely comfortable with a person.. sometimes he'll ask me questions like "how much do you love me?" and "what would you go through to be with me?" .. i mean I could just be over thinking, but I need to put my mind to rest. And I don't think sticking a finger up his ass during sex to see if its loose will help at all.

    HELP PLEASE!
     
    #1 MommyOfTwo, Feb 18, 2014
  2. CharlieHK

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    Plenty of straight people enjoy the ins and outs of anal sex. I can't tell you he's bisexual just because he's good at something that maybe all straight guys aren't.

    But he does seem to be laying the ground work to tell you something.
     
    #2 CharlieHK, Feb 18, 2014
  3. danball7

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    Well, if he knows you're bisexual, you could just say (at an opportune moment of course) "If you're trying to tell me you might be bi, just tell me, I'm in no position to judge" or something along those lines. Sorry, I'm not great with coming out stuff, I tend to be rather blunt, it might not be your style. However, he could just be interested in homosexuality in general, I know someone who's like that and they're pretty straight.

    Also some men just like anal. Apparently quite a lot of men prefer it because the anus tends to be tighter than the vagina, and is therefore more stimulating. And if he wanted to do it right, he probably did some research beforehand. Is he the type to obsess over stuff, or want to know every little thing about everything? Equally he might have a bit of prior experience in it and just not want to tell because it's embarrassing to him (anal is still a bit of a social no-no to many people). If you are the type of couple that likes to "spice things up" in bed, try proposing a hypothetical threesome with another man or you using a strap-on on him and study his reaction.

    Sorry if I haven't been of much use, this is just off the top of my head here. Good luck anyway :slight_smile:
     
    #3 danball7, Feb 18, 2014
  4. Sotv

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    Arguably the more important question is what would your reaction be?
    If you didn't mind it then where's the need to know? If your worried he's seeing other guys that's a different problem but if that's not the worry then I don't see a need to find out or care as long as you guys are happy.
     
    #4 Sotv, Feb 18, 2014
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