hey everyone, need advice: lesbian gf having girl friends

You trust her, and so it'd be best to allow her that freedom to choose her friends. You do not need to like her friends or vice versa, and her friendships should not affect her relationship with you, you know? It really is as simple as that. Of course, this jealousy of sorts, if you'd like to call it that, really can only be controlled to an extent by you. Focus on what you can control and what you cannot. I recommend not restricting her from making and meeting these people, as I think that's something that's just beyond what you can choose for her and wouldn't be conducive to a fair relationship necessarily, so there's that.

But part of this issue can be dealt with just by talking about it as you've just done. I think it'd be good for you to continue to do so. With time, you might find yourself more patient in this regard, perhaps. At the very least, open communication is helpful in solving issues even if it's just with yourself and is also cathartic.

 

It's tough but I think you have to let her have friends. How well do you know these girls? Have you met them or do you just know who they are?

 

If you trust your girlfriend, then you shouldn't be worried about her friends. When she says they're just friends, then they probably are just that. Do you have any other reason to suspect they might be otherwise? Like, has she grown distant towards you, or something like that? Do you know if any of those girls are gay or bi? If not, then there shouldn't be anything to worry about.

While you might not be physically insecure, it's still possible to be emotionally insecure, especially after something like being cheated on happens. To make a long story short, I know for a fact it's hard to deal with that kind of jealousy, even when things are looking good. It sticks with you, and seems to only heal with time and love. Don't let that feeling cloud your judgement though.

Also, you didn't come off sounding like an idiot. You're just worried. Nothing wrong with that.

 

If you've been cheated on before, then yeah, I think It's pretty normal to be jealous and insecure. Like Eleanorhunter said, those feelings stick with you.

But just because she has female friends doesn't necessarily mean anything by itself. I think most people want friends their own gender to relate to, so even if they're gay it doesn't mean anything. I prefer having female friends myself- most of which are good-looking and queer, but that doesn't mean I've 'done' anything with any of them.

It's probably the same with your girlfriend.