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When to ask him to be my boyfriend and how exactly?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by MMF, Feb 23, 2014.

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  1. MMF

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    Help, I think I'm just going to go for it, not sure if he likes me still or just being really friendy.:bang:
     
    #1 MMF, Feb 23, 2014
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    Need more details.

    Do you know if he's into guys?
    Does he know you're gay?
    Does he know you like him?
    Have you gone on any dates?

    Basically, when you can answer yes to each of these questions, I think it would be okay to ask him.
     
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    Yes to all, we've gone out outside school. 3 movie dates and I've slept over in his house twice but separate rooms(He asked me if I wanted to come over, then asked me if I wanted to stay in for the night after I said yes).

    When I ask him out I say "Wanna go out on the weekend?" or the last time I said "Let's go out this weekend" he said "sure, I'll suggest something" then he suggested we'd go for a movie and play pool later that night. We did, in the movie he kept looking at me but I didn't want to do anything, I looked once but looked back at the movie right away.. He kept looking but I just didn't look back anymore was too shy lol.
     
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    If he knows you're gay and you've gone out on dates, it seems as if you're already sorta dating without the label of him being your boyfriend. I would ask him out and hope for the best.
     
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    Sounds like he's also in the same boat as you - timid and a bit shy in asking the other out.
    Someone's got to make the first move, or nothing will happen.

    If you're confident that the signs are there, and you're feeling it, why not? There's only two outcomes, he's going to say yes, or he's going to say no. If he says no, it might sting, but just keep moving forward.

    Good luck!
     
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    That's the thing, fear of rejection; it's human nature.. Its just that some people are not afraid.
     
    #6 MMF, Feb 24, 2014
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    so what do I ask..... Im so bad at this
     
    #7 MMF, Feb 26, 2014
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    Well I'm going to assume a few things here.
    1) You are out to each other
    2) You have spent large amounts of time together
    3) You are very close

    My advice here would be to talk to him in person and just ask him how he feels. Rejection is scary, but I always thought it was less scary than the possibility that you just missed a chance of a lifetime.
     
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    Do you need to ask in such a direct way? Might be better to have a chat with him about what's been happening between the two of you (reflect on what you've both done together and say how much you enjoy spending time with him) then ask how he feels things are going? If you get a positive answer back you can take it further and be a little more direct.
     
    #9 PatrickUK, Feb 26, 2014
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    All three are right, i'll try asking him out today to go out on the weekend and see what happens.. :eek::confused:

    ---------- Post added 27th Feb 2014 at 09:50 AM ----------

    Alright, i'll try this.. someday, maybe next time we go out and do it while in the car ride..
     
    #10 MMF, Feb 27, 2014
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