It never bothered me when I was younger or in high school having a beautiful mom. Now that I'm older though its starting to bother me a bit. Like my mom has had many plastic surgeries done she has a perfect toned/skinny body she's now back to bleach blonde fake tanned and it's not my body but it's humiliating when I'm with her now and people stare she's really immature as well. Like it is barley sunny here in the lower mainland and she sometimes wears hot pink short shorts and a short shirts showing her stomach and her belly button piercing off and she will wear right jeans and boots or heals and high shoes and short shirts. But she isn't a cheerleader anymore she's not in high school she needs to stop dressing like this but I don't now how to say "mom you dress like a skank and get your boobs reduced" like how can I bring this up?
While it sounds like your mom is pretty vain and I can definitely understand how it might be embarrassing to go out with her, I think the best thing to do is just keep your thoughts to yourself and let her come to the realization that she looks ridiculous. If that doesn't happen, just ignore it. It's more important that she's comfortable with the way she looks than it is for you not to be embarrassed by her.
I guess but it's like she's not 20 and she's a mother like I don't want people checking my mom out like...
i understand but females want to go back being young and sexy everyone does ,i cant blame here but u have to tell it looks bad nd she wont gain creditably or status
For all that she may be vain, it is extraordinarily inappropriate to call your mother or any woman a "skank." What is it that you think she's doing wrong? Too flashy? Too exposed? Is she insecure about her apperance and uncomfortable about herself? Speak to her as a loving son and ask her if anything is wrong, and tell her that her behaviour (though what behaviour in particular that you're displeased with, I don't know) is making you uncomfortable. For all that you think she is acting inappropriately, perhaps there's a reason behind it that won't be resolved with harsh criticism (especially delivered in the terms you decribed)
This is a suggestion that might not work but here goes. Perhaps you can go to a shop that sells magazines and buy ones that are of more stately repute. They will contain many examples of women who are more "appropriately" dressed. If you lay them over your home, your mom may end up picking them up, reading them, and getting inspired. Over time, your mother may want to emulate these people and copy their mannerisms.
I feel like buying her a playboy and saying "this is you" although I'm sure shed be flattered at that. I really don't see the harm in the word "skank" she's always dressed like one it never bothered me that my mom was hot in fact I think people liked that more about me but now it's like I don't know it just bothers me I feel like I live in the playboy mansion basically. She can go live there if she wants.... Like sometimes she dresses so nicely and 99% of the time she dresses like a porn star.
This. His mum can dress however she pleases, and trying to influence someone in any way to change something about themselves that isn't harming anyone is messed up. Sure Alexander may be getting embarrassed, but that certainly doesn't count.
I'm guessing no one here can relate to me I was hoping someone would see understand how I feel. I don't think anyone is like "oh mommy please dress up like a playboy" I'm proud that my mom is beautiful however you can be beautiful and not be dress like... "That"
Alexander, I do understand how you feel. My mum used to get her boobs out at the beach when she sunbathed and it used to bother me... But then I realised that its her body, not mine and if she wants to take her top off she can. And from that moment on, I got over myself. You cant live your life worried about what other people are going to think of you or your family. At the end of the day, the way your mother dresses isnt really your business, is it? She obviously feels comfortable dressing that way. Its her life. If you feel embarrassed, its your problem, not hers. I would suggest that you are the person who needs to change, not her. When I walk around my city, holding my boyfriends hand, we get laughed at, people pass comment, we get looks of disgust and horror and we, on occasion, get shouted at. God knows how many people just think homophobic thoughts at us. But I dont care what anybody thinks or says because I am happy and I'm proud of who I am and the choices I have made in my life. Let your mother be who she is and who she wants to be in life. Dont pass your insecurities on to her.
I guess you guys are right I just wish I had a normal life you know? I'm so jealous of real families and people who have real caring parents I know mine care just not the traditional way. And I'm sorry people yell at you guys that's terrible I'd turn around at beat the shit out of them really. Good for you for not caring
Dude, it's your mom's body and life. You wouldn't want someone telling you how to dress, so don't do it to anyone else. Love and respect her for who she is. After all, she did give birth to you.
Alexander, I do relate. I had a friend whose mom did exactly the same thing... she was in her late 40s and dressed like a high school girl. She was a total golddigger and dressed that way to try and snare someone rich. It was disgusting, because she went through boyfriends like most people go through underwear. The bottom line is, your mom is a profoundly unhappy and insincere person, and she clearly isn't comfortable aging... and, quite honestly, she's almost certainly dressing that way because she's looking to snare someone rich so she doesn't have to work. There's nothing you can do that's going to change her outlook or attitude. The only possible solution would be *years* of therapy, and even then, she'd have to want to change, and that doesn't seem likely. So, unfortunately, what you're starting to learn is what it's like to have a totally shallow, insincere parent that doesn't have what she used to have and now wants it back. Your only real solutions are to accept things as they are, or tell her it isn't working out and she needs to move back with her mother. I know that isn't what you want to hear, but it's pretty much the truth.
I thought that my father sold the house in west van because that's what he said at first but then I found out either he bought it back or never sold it at all. It's along story as to how I found out but I'm pissed. So I think I'm going to tell her to move back there or go to the house in whistler. I feel bad but everything she's doing is annoying me I bought her the vehicle so she could get from place to place and she's just out all day basically. That's not what I wanted and when I asked her why she keeps leaving she said "I'm not going to be alone for ever" she wants to meet someone you are right and I want her to be happy but not so that i loose sanity LOL so today I'm going to ask her of she can go to whistler or west van how I'm going to ask I have no clue.......
