I hate being innocent

All I can say is I have the same fear and I'm seven years older than you...I don't think 20 is too unusual.

I'm sure it can make for a few awkward moments or conversations, but anybody worth being in a relationship with will be understanding and see past that as in reality it's a very minor roadblock. At least that's what I'm hoping. =/

 

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It annoys me how our society places too much importance on sexual experience. It's okay to value sex, but when inexperienced people are made to feel ashamed, that's a bigger problem.

I may not share the same sentiment because I'm rather proud that I'm still sexually inexperienced and never did anything with anyone just to fit the societal pressures and say I did it so people would like me. We all have to worry about when the right time and place to do it is. It's okay to have sex, but It's also okay to be inexperienced because your time will come.

I've definitely been shamed of my lack of experience by potential partners. Instead of getting upset, I just felt like they would have made crappy excuses for partners anyway, so why even try to impress them? A GOOD partner will respect you and help you learn, and trust me when I say there are guys out there like that.

 

Don't feel bad, we are all innocent at one point or another!

 

Never saying no helped me. I say no now and I'm pretty sure it's going to close up because it's been almost a month.

 

I am 2 years older than you and haven't even kissed or did anything with anyone you shouldn't be ashamed by it, no one should. I want to have those experiences but when I'm ready so don't feel bad there are plenty of people who would understand and may have even been in your shoes. So don't stress over it it will happen when it happens and when your ready,everyone goes at their own pace and were at one point inexperienced as you.

 

Imagine being in this position at the age of 43. Personally, I don't have to imagine. It's the story of my life...

That said...I do think there is something to be said for waiting for the right person. I personally don't know that I'd insist on Mr. Right Forever in my case. But I refuse to do a one night hookup off some cell phone app...

 

it's refreshing to know that there is so many inexperienced people out there. you're definitely not alone. someone who's looking for more than a hookup will most likely be glad you haven't slept around.

 

Trust me, you're not alone. I didn't start dating until I was 21, and didn't get my first kiss until 24. I still feel somewhat inexperienced(especially sexually), and sometimes wish that I would have dated earlier, but then again, I think it was and is better I waited.

 

I'd just like to say you're not alone I hadn't done anything till a year ago and I've just turned 24, also just take things at your pace and don't feel pressured into just having to do anything you don't want to do.

 

Being innocent is not a bad thing. I wish I was still innocent. Sometimes when you are way past innocent it can be very unattractive. All in all I find the innocent to be very attractive.

 

Well, I'm 24 and didn't lose my virginity until two years ago, and there are others who have their first experience much later. Almost everyone who rushes it ends up regretting it later on, just about.

And like someone else said, if someone isn't willing to be patient and understanding with you, they're NOT the right person. It's not you who is at fault for being inexperienced, but a society that is so obsessed with "growing up" before you're ready.

 

You're certainly not alone in this so don't feel silly or ashamed as there's nothing to feel bad about. Just be yourself and don't rush into anything you don't feel comfortable in doing right away.

 

My boyfriend is super pumped to get to 'train' me.

I think I understand your concern about it, but I think a lot of guys would like having someone new to be with because we're like a blank slate - of course it might be a bit draggish for them at first since they'll want to get right down it and you and I will just kind of have to stop and question what's happening, but it can be fun.

I actually find inexperience to be an endearing trait. Then again, I have almost no experience so that might change but who knows.

Just don't worry about it - think of it this way. Eventually, you're going to meet someone and you're not going to be inexperienced anymore. That's really the only way to look at it, right? So don't stress about it! He would have been a virgin at some point too.

 

i hate it too ! my cousins are decitful nd more clever than i am

 

You're not alone. I'm 20 and I haven't even had my first kiss yet except for a kiss on the cheek. I have close friends who have done a lot more than me and a lot of them tell me they wish they'd waited and were in my situation. Everyone is different and you will get experience with time too, but if you want to wait for the right person then you're doing what you feel is right for you and there's nothing wrong with that! I'm probably going to do the same. Sure it feels awkward and annoying sometimes but nothing to be ashamed of.

 

you're not alone. i didn't kiss a girl until i was 15. i didn't start dating until I was 16. i didn't have sex until i was 18. so try not to worry because it's normal for some of us to be a little late on certain things.

 

I'm 18 and I have never kissed anyone. So, don't care about it, if a person doesn't respect you, it means they doesn't deserve your love and your kindnesses.