Help!!! can somebody enlighten me about homoerotic and romantic friendship? my bestfriend and i has gotten very very close and according to my professor in sociology that we are infact in a relationship but none of us both acknowledged or feared to acknowledged...i am gay but only a few people know that i am gay ...i did not tell my sexuality to my bestfriend i dunno if he senses but i believe he does he is a smart guy...he had 2 girlfriends but recently broke up with his gf who happens to be my friend also... we had several squabbles but he did not explain why he hates me no reason at all ..when i asked him about this he said ''no! i wont tell! i cannot tell! its just here(pointing to himself) i will never tell...it is hard for me...call me coward but i wont tell'' everytime me argue he would just repeat this statement..we are like running in circles problems not addressed...now he ditched me and left me hanging and never gave me a valid reason why he acted and treated me like that... how ever he spoke with his ex girlfriend and gave these reasons: *we know each other so much and it got stale and boring for the both of us *he told my mom about what happened between you(ex gf) and me why we broke up (note: he already told his mom about it before i did his moms questions were just to confirm things i believe) *our friendship became toxic *hes too confrontational(me) and i cannot bear it anymore (had he told me about the problem would i be confrontational? had i known would i go ask him again and again? if he said ok he should mean that we are ok already not just trying to put on an ''OK'' face but in reality hes still holding grudges inside) *he said that he got suffocated because i am too clingy and confrontational (maybe true but did he realize that it is important to tell the truth to address problems? *i come to their house without notice (note: theres truth on this but only on several occassions and when we are still ok ist not an issue wih him but when i came to their house several times when we are not ok anymore maybe he felt invaded and violated... I told his ex gf that sory i wont buy his reasons..he could have told me that before hand ayt? and so i asked her..so would you buy this? she said NO its been months already not to have this issues addressed she believes there really is a deeper reason that he is not willing to tell... i just made my story shorter but actually there are lots of twists and confusion and it is getting unbearable already...i cannot handle the situation anyfurther..i wanted to make peace with him and settle the issue but hes not willing and the long wait is killing me really! I hope you guys could help me out..i have a blog about this and i hope ull find time to read it if you wanted a clearer version .. Thank you so much any comments would be greatley appreciated!
We can hardly guess how he feels. Come out to him. You will see what he will tell you. Either he knows you are gay and he doesn't feel comfortable having feelings for you. Or he doesn't know you are gay. Or he really wants to break up. Just my guess...
nick thats the sad part...he doesnt want to talk to me...he just told his ex gf that there will come a time that we would talk and possibly be friends again...but not now...i dont want to wait anymore but i just cant let go I love him so much...I honestly think he knows i am gay...or perhaps suspicious its been 7 yrs already i never had a girlfriend since i broke up with my gf 7 yrs ago...
An old fashioned letter then? It's really hard to tell if he is gay/bi or straight. He can come from a homophobic family and can be afraid of their reaction. He may be upset because of what your teacher said because he is afraid that you two are too obvious.
hes a confusion really!!!! hes got other gay friends close gay friends that is...he is comfortable with them and he had a friend who is gay older than us both in korea and sleeps at this gaymans aparatment everyweekend...hes got a gaydar but denies that those person are gay but people around him tells these people are gay...hes comfortable with gay people but at the same time doesnt wat to have a hair cut in a salon because of flirty gay hairstylist...he always go to barber shop for haircut...hes got a gay cousin and he hates the boy for being gay and effeminate...hes comfortable with gays but despises gays and lifestyle at the same time..confusing indeed!
